23 Things You Should Actually Do Before You’re 23

ImageAt the end of 2013 I saw an article on ‘Freshly Pressed’ that caught my eye. It turns out, it also caught the eyes of thousands of others and over the last few days I have watched it as it has gone viral, spawning thousands of comments that both praise and vilify the author (even to the point where she has been labelled a ‘slut’ and a ‘whore,’ which I have been disgusted at).

I don’t have an opinion on the age that somebody should get married and I am certainly not using this as an opportunity to attack the author. A friend of mine, who married at the age of 22 and who now has two beautiful children once told me that she wanted to share her life with her husband and children rather than living it on her own first, and I thought it was a lovely sentiment to have. However, ’23 Things To Do Instead Of Getting Engaged At 23′ was a title that instantly appealed to me – at 32 years old I am not married, despite the fact that I have lived with The Bloke for quite a few years – and because of this I had an expectation that this post was going to offer some fantastic ideas or life advice that would inspire me.

Unfortunately, this wasn’t the case.  The list of things that were given, such as eat a jar of Nutella in one sitting, disappoint your parents, hangout naked in front of a window, cut your hair, make out with a stranger and sign up for CrossFit wasn’t just uninspiring, it was downright silly (and in some cases, dangerous). I have eaten a jar of Nutella in one sitting, I have disappointed my parents (many times), I have cut my hair, but I found it ridiculous to list these as an alternative to engagement.

However boring this may sound, being an adult means having some level of responsibility, regardless of marital status. Therefore, I have created my own list of things that I believe that everyone should do before they are 23, whether they are married or not.

1. Gain as many qualifications as possible. These don’t have to be academic qualifications, there are lots of vocational alternatives.

2. Learn to be financially knowledgable. This may not necessarily mean financial independence, but it is important to know how to pay bills, live to a budget and understand how a bank account works.

3. Learn to cook from scratch. Good for the health, good for the bank balance.

4. Know how to look after yourself. Be able to keep yourself, your clothes and your home clean (you’d be surprised how many 19 year olds that I know that still don’t have a concept of this).

5. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin, and being alone with yourself.

6. Know your alcohol limit. Just occasionally, be able to stop drinking before you go over it. It doesn’t stop you from staying out until 6.00am, it just means you can do so without having vomit in your hair.

7. In between disappointing your parents, which will usually at some point be inevitable, take the time to appreciate them and tell them how much they mean to you.

8. Occasionally, take the time to do absolutely nothing but indulge yourself. Rest, relax, recharge your batteries. Have a long hot bath, read a book, sleep all day.

9. If you can, travel as much as possible with people you love. It doesn’t have to be abroad – explore the sights and sounds of your home country. Road trip, anyone?

10. Give your time to a charitable cause.

11. Go out in fancy dress.

12. Learn at least the basic elements of a foreign language.

13. See your favourite singer/band in concert.

14. Forgive (doesn’t mean you have to forget) and move on.

15. Spend 24 hours without any media – no internet, tv, phone or consoles. See what you accomplish in your boredom.

16. Learn to say no, to yourself and to others.

17. Get rid of that one rude, inconsiderate friend who makes your time together a chore. Best thing I ever did.

18. Take pictures. Lots of pictures.

19. Get a job working in the service/retail industry. Trust me, after 18 months of working at McDonalds and two years working in a nightclub, I’ll never be rude to a waitress, shop assistant or barman ever.

20. Understand that if you really want something, you’re going to have to start working for it, or be really good at asking for it.

21. Spontaneously do something that you have never done before.

22. Splurge on something that you’ve always wanted.

23. Be grateful for what you have.


Hope you all have a lovely day!

You can also find me on Twitter @Suzie81blog.

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236 Responses to 23 Things You Should Actually Do Before You’re 23

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  2. doe4 says:

    i love your blog..thanks alot for liking and supporting my work…

  3. jrcipriano says:

    Reblogged this on Information Technology Professional & Father and commented:

  4. amakaanozie says:

    Thanks for liking my post, Suzie

  5. Reblogged this on Steffica's World and commented:
    Yes, yes, and yes again!

  6. Loved this post! I have a couple of years left before I turn 23 and there are a few more in this list that I need to get done by then. Cheers!

  7. zombiedrew2 says:

    Fantastic post. I love it. Too many people seem to equate “enjoying life” with being irresponsible. There’s no reason that has to be the case.

  8. atempleton says:

    Great list for anyone.

  9. joyezeka says:

    Wish I read this before I was 23 :( Now I’m in my 30’s but never to late to add some to my list. #19 totally agree! Great post Suzie, I love the way you write.

  10. beautwins says:

    Great post. I’m 32 as well and super proud of all the things I’ve achieved in my little life so far with lots more goals to reach for. A lovely positive post. #SundayStars

  11. This is a great (and incredibly popular – well done!) post. Some really good ideas and would be very impressed if someone did manage these by 23. #sundaystars

  12. I’m 35 and am also very pleased with my life so far! I don’t sweat stuff I haven’t done, I live for everything that happens to me and I’m super happy!!!! Great post :) Jess x #sundaystars

  13. courtjg says:

    I’m recently 23 and although I’d say I have a good handle on things, I’m definitely still learning when it comes to finances (#2) and saying “no” (#16). I live at home with my parents to save money while I pay off school-loans, and I’ve just started a budget, it’s hard but it definitely is helping. I think that being grateful to parents (#7) is so hard for some young adults, but I’ve grown to really appreciate them and realize all they’ve given up for me. I really liked this post, much better than most posts I’ve seen.

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  15. susielindau says:

    Hey Susie!
    I remember that FPd post and thought it was ridiculous. It was back when a lot of ridiculous posts got Pressed. I love your list!

  16. Jhaneel says:

    This is a great list! I’m 23, and feeling proud that I’ve done pretty much all these things. Just need to see a few more people in concert..

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  18. marianallanos says:

    This is a great post. My daughter is three, but I’ll make sure she reads this list in the future as it is great advice for life.

  19. EmaJoyC says:

    Number 19, yes!! 😂 xxx 👍

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  21. Will turn 23 on Saturday.
    Am so happy i went through your lovely words and realized that i have nearly accomplished these things before my 23.
    You rock with this blog!
    Kisses and good luck for your future inspiration to guide younger people.

  22. dyule2014 says:

    Thank you Suzie for all your presentation I have been so very busy did not have the time to read all your wonderful story. For your success daily

  23. Great list! It’s quite a while ago that I turned 23 (a long time ago), and even if I might sound like my own parents in saying this, but the one advice I would give my younger self is to take more advantage of the huge amount of free time that one still has at 23. I probably would travel around the world for a year after school. Later in life, one won’t have so much time at one’s disposition.

  24. Great post. As someone who used to work as a checkout girl in a supermarket I strongly agree with 19!!

  25. plaguedparents says:

    We were just talking about how the human brain isn’t even fully formed until age 24ish, it is amazing how your perspective changes as you mature.
    Great list, especially the be comfortable in your own skin…so necessary.

  26. Roni says:

    This is fantastic. I think that this goes for everybody at every age. Anyone out there reading this and your past 23, you need to get on this.

  27. Great suggestions for everyone, regardless of age. Before getting married and having kids, my girlfriends and I would jump into our old cars and head off for a couple of days to just get away from everything. It was a combination of no technology, cooking together from scratch and recharging our batteries that just made us instantly feel so much better, and more focused to tackle big projects at work the next week.

  28. Christine says:

    Great suggestions! Though I’m already 23, I’m going to start focusing on some of these things that I don’t already.

    Christine | DimesandDonuts.com

  29. Love this list such great suggestions! I’m definitely going to try an get as many qualifications as possible and give time to a charity. Although I’ve already volunteered for the FAST charity (http://fastromania.eu/), it was so much fun and a lovely experience. Volunteering is such a wonderful thing to do!

  30. Some really good points here :) I haven’t yet been out in fancy dress tho so I think I’m going to give that one a go :)
    Fatima :)

  31. Hi Suzie

    That good ole Carpe Diem again, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carpe_diem

    Though I prefer the thought as expressed in Robert Herrick’s “To the Virgins, to Make Much of Time”, that is:

    Gather ye rosebuds while ye may,
    Old time is still a-flying;
    And this same flower that smiles today
    Tomorrow will be dying.

    Kind regards


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