The last song I listened to was ‘Just Give Me A Reason’ by Pink, featuring Nate Ruess. The third line from the end is ‘we can learn to love again’.
My longest relationship has been with The Bloke. I’ve not had a massive amount of relationships in my dating life – I would say that I’ve had five that I would consider to be significant (The Bloke included) and of those I have been in love with three of them (The Bloke included) and truly heartbroken twice.
Boyfriend 1 was a nice guy. We spent the evenings in his room (lit by a red lava lamp) watching cult films – he introduced me to fantastic films like ‘Clerks’. He was the first man to buy me chocolates.
Boyfriend 2 was a nasty, cheating sociopath and a compulsive liar.
Boyfriend 3 was the closest I’ve come to love at first sight. We met playing in the pit for ‘Guys and Dolls’ (I was lead violin, he was lead sax) and we clicked immediately – by the end of the week we were in a very intense relationship. He was a jazz saxophonist and extremely passionate about his music. I visited various jazz clubs to watch him perform, I attended jazz concerts with him, we visited his family regularly and went to lots of shows. Unfortunately, the initial intensity of the relationship meant that after a year there was nothing to build up to, and to be honest, he was quite immature and my expectations of him were too high.
Boyfriend 4 was the one who broke my heart. However, before his double life was revealed we spent weekends travelling to different parts of the country. We had meals in country pubs, went to the beach and took walks around the countryside.
Boyfriend 5 is The Bloke.
What I learnt from those relationships was that they taught me what I want and similarly what I don’t want from a man. I was able to experience and learn new things from each person, and aside from Boyfriend 2 I laughed and had fun with them. Despite Boyfriend 4’s attempt to rip my heart out, The Bloke is absolute proof that it is possible to ‘learn to love again.’