Karma’s a B*tch, Right?

ImageSomething that wasn’t particularly nice happened to someone I know at the end of last week. They didn’t come to any physical harm – they weren’t hurt in any way – but their life has now been turned upside down because of this event. And you know what? I was secretly really pleased.

I am a bad person.

At one point in my life I really needed their support – I was experiencing an extremely traumatic time and this person had the ability to stop it. They didn’t. To make matters even worse, they added fuel to the fire and took great delight in doing so. Consequently, when I heard about what had happened, my insides did a little happy dance and my first thought was ‘Karma’s a b*tch.’

I am a really bad person.

The concept of Karma originated in ancient India and features in Hindu, Jain, Buddhist and Sikh religious philosophies. The eastern interpretation generally focuses on the idea of cause and effect, although this is widely argued between the different religions. In the western world, the term has been generally adopted to symbolise the term ‘what goes around comes around,’ in which a person’s actions, good or bad, will result in consequences for that particular person.

ImageThe issue of religion and spirituality is usually something that I try to avoid. Life is cruel, and all too often bad things happen to good people (one of the many reasons why I am quick to dismiss certain elements of religion), but I believe that everyone is entitled to have faith in whatever they choose and should be allowed to do so without fear or judgement or retribution. However, every so often I see examples of karmic retribution, both positive and negative, that do make me question the idea of a higher power:

An acquaintance once told me a story that had happened to her neighbour. She lived in New Orleans during Hurricane Katrina and was extremely lucky that her house had managed to survive relatively unscathed. A few weeks after the hurricane hit, she returned from a weekend away to find that her house had been ransacked and her possessions stolen, including sentimental things that her children had given to her. She was devastated, but there was very little that could be done amidst the chaos that had ensued in the aftermath of the hurricane, so she did her best to clean up the house and carried on with her life. In her back garden was a pool that had been filled with debris from the disaster and looked like thick black sludge, so a while after the robbery she paid for contracters to come and clean it up as it was becoming a health hazard. At the bottom of the pool was a dead man and a bag that contained her possessions and those of another household. It turns out that the man had deliberately come to New Orleans to take advantage of the looting that had ensued. The police concluded that he had fallen into the pool and drowned because it was dark and he couldn’t see where he was going.

But was this karma? Did the man get what was coming to him in a ‘what goes around’ fashion? Was his death something that he deserved, or was it simply bad luck? If he hadn’t been in the house to rob it in the first place then he wouldn’t have fallen into the pool. What I do know is that I certainly wouldn’t wish anybody dead.

When researching this post I came across this article on spritiualnow.com, that listed the Dalai Lama’s instructions for life. It was so inspiring in the fact that it was simple and makes perfect common sense and I wanted to share it with you all.

Image1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

3. Follow the three R’s:

–  Respect for self,
–  Respect for others and
–  Responsibility for all your actions.

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great relationship.

7. When you realise you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

8. Spend some time alone every day.

9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.

14. Share your knowledge. It is a way to achieve immortality.

15. Be gentle with the earth.

16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.

17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

19. If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.

20. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.

Perhaps the lesson, if indeed there is a lesson to be learned, is that life is what we make it. Regardless of religious beliefs, I like the idea that if you work hard and are a good person, good things will happen.

karma-owned-revenge-2Here’s where you get the chance to contribute:

Have you experienced what you consider to be karma, good or bad? Do you know anyone who has?
What is your opinion of karma? Do you believe in it’s existence?

I’d love to know what you think!

Note: this is not an opportunity to attack different religions – any comments that are offensive, rude, abusive towards myself or others or preach at me will be sent straight to the trash…

Happy Blogging!!

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66 thoughts on “Karma’s a B*tch, Right?

  1. A couple of years ago, while still married… I went through a very rough time personally. To make matters worse, in a marriage on the rocks, my ex started getting angry and hostile. Well, needless to say I ended the marriage. 3 months later he married again, some time after that, he had a near fatal motorcycle accident. I’ve always believed that was Karma.

  2. Hey Suzie81!
    Great subject! I have lived through some very hard and tragic times. I also have seen people go down after either mocking me or accusing me falsely etc..
    I would like to share my viewpoint as a Christian on these things, but not sure if that is what you are looking for?
    Im write in a way to provoke thought not to offend. At any rate just hit me back and let me know your thoughts on that. I have done other pieces on human behavior and rewards/ consequences etc…but dont want to offend you or anyone!

  3. This article really gave me something to think about. I always believed in Karma and maybe it’s true, who knows? It’s either Karma or Fate or Destiny! It is something but and a good job on the article. It’s damn good! 🙂

  4. I love a lot of the Dalai Lama’s quotes and of the above I think 8 is very good and yet so simple. Like you I am not religious but I do think a lot of the buddhist stuff resonates with me. MM 💚

  5. Hi Suzi, its only human nature that you are feeling, called it karma, call it fate, call it sitting and praying that harm will befall your tormentor. We have all done it, I try and be nice to everyone and hope that they have a nice life, but feck with me or my family I will wish vengence on them whether its karma, Gods vengence or the voodoo doll I made of them partly stuffed with items I have collected, like finger nail clippings, hair and shedded skin. Really I am not a person with vengeful tendencies………really.
    But it is very satisfying when you get that warm feeling what rises into a evil snigger. I can tell this story as my father has passed away so he cannot be done for it but this is sweet vengence.
    He was in his 70’s and suffering with lung cancer, he lived in a block of 4 flats he lived on the top floor and he also made sure his neighbours were ok and he cooked the meals for the old lady who live in the other top floor flat (my father was an army cook) Anyway the older man who lived below his flat died and the council put in this waste of space druggy who would play loud music all day, had parties, raided by the police, stole their milk and newspapers. My father then found out that this guy had been threatening the lady my father cooked for and taking her money and cigs, so they phoned the police, but the police said that they spoke to the guy and they couldnt prove anything.
    My father spoje to the guy, now dad wasnt a small guy and had worked most of his life as a docker, the guy told him to piss off and he owned the block and everyone will pay.
    Dad knowing that the police wouldnt do anything without the proof, he waited until the guy went out one evening dad got his neighbours into his flat then went downstairs and poured lighter fuel through the guys letter box and set fire to his flat. He then got out his neighbours and phoned the fire brigade. Dad died 5 years ago, this happened about 7 years ago, he may have not been able to read or right very well and was a bastard to my mother but he had morals and anyone crossed him ‘be vengeful’ was his motto. It does sound like the story came from the annals of super hero, but he was one of 15 children and they looked after each other. Karma, my fathers middle name. 🙂

  6. I have so many examples of when ‘karma’ has happened and I have felt jubilant that someone has had their comeuppance, unfortunately I have seen so many cases where people have got away with certain behaviours. I have one example of an ex-fiance of my best friend who stole her money, cheated on her and made another woman pregnant while living with her. It was horrible and my friend is still piecing together her life. He worked with her, and through his own actions lost his job, which you would think would be punishment for his actions. However, I know that he has since moved around and started other jobs, and he has since come back to torment my friend some more. He has also started other relationships and been granted part-custody of his kids. Has he just not had his real comeuppance yet? Or was it just not as much as it should have been? It’s so difficult to know, but I do believe in karma because I know that when I treat others well and ‘send out good vibes’ I do truly get them back and they move outward from me like ripples..
    Sorry for such a long comment, but I also wanted to say that you are not a bad person for thinking that, you cannot help how you feel instinctively and no-one would blame you for wanting people to learn from their mistakes and to experience the pain you were forced to. Feelings cannot be helped, it is how you act on them that is the proof of character. xx

  7. I do feel that what goes around comes around. Now that I think about it, I remember many years ago my brother was dating someone and her brother didn’t approve of it. The girl, her brother, and some of his friends, followed my brother, sister, and my friend back to our house and attacked my friend breaking his arm and brusing his face and broke out all the back windows and busted the walls to one of our family rooms trying to get my brother back in their car. It was said that the girls brother intentions were to kill my brother.
    Years later, her brother ended up passing away with no cause, the girl, and the other guys are in legal troubles. I hate to say that was Karma since that person is no longer here.
    Thanks for posting this. I have learned new ways on how to deal with situations and you reminded me of things I already know but need to start practicing again.
    I can be a bad person too but I am working very hard on changing that!

  8. love this.
    really appreciate your post.
    yes
    i believe in Karma
    and i make light (to make light) what i call “Karmic boomerang” – which happens every time i’ve gotten into a new relationship.
    every time.
    i get to watch it come down the pike.
    and thanks for posting the list of 20
    and i’ll also share this quote –
    something i try to keep on the tippy top of my mind these days…
    “be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle”

  9. I liked how you approached this topic of Karma. Being Buddhist myself, we have been taught about karmic retribution since we were born. When I was younger, I tended to believe something like that. However, I started to put a doubt in this as I’ve grown up. If every bad/good event happens because of karmic retribution, people might stay as they are and don’t do anything such as blaming their own bad situation on the bad karma etc. I am therefore trying to alter my thought to be in a different way such as cause & consequence.

  10. I loved this post! I know karma sucks big time for people who do bad. I’ve seen bad things happen to many people after they treat me bad or others really bad but it feels like good people don’t get what they deserve if they stay on a good path. I agree with the Dalai Lama’s instructions for life, and I follow them the best that I can but I’m not perfect. I want to think good things will happen for me since I’m a good person but life hasn’t shown me that yet unfortunately.

  11. Enjoyed reading your ‘what happened’ to make you write this intriguing little karma mystery. One can only speculate but no doubt, gossips stories and rumors will be circulating amongst readers who will be looking for sequels. Have a nice day Suzie.

  12. Karma, like closure, is something most of us all so desperately want to believe in, the idea of ultimate justice in the universe external to the human condition. But much like religion, where very bad things happen to good people, in many cases karma fails to either have good things happen to good people, or, more importantly, bad things happen to bad people. So, like your stance on religion there are easy and valid reasons to dismiss the very notion of karma.

    I am a spiritual person, but not religious, so I can still prescribe to the idea of karma. But the mistake I think again most of us make in dealing or “wishing” karma is that we take pride, glee and satisfaction when we conclude that karma has indeed struck. It is, in this way, just another form of vengeance, but one we had over to the spiritual world and thus avoid any responsibility or messiness for what may result from it. This “handling” of karma would, no doubt, disappoint the Dali Lama, and is not in keeping with the spiritual notion of Karma.

    Personally, I am relying on karmic retribution for my ex, something she believes is coming for her as well. HOWEVER, I am not actively praying or wishing for anything particular, nor do I stalk her health or daily activities to see if it has yet to occur. Karma is best left alone where it can and will be served cold and lonely, quite independent even of the reasons or its casual factors. So, for me, I have great faith that yes, what comes around goes around, but how, when, where and to what extent it goes around is not for me to decide, nor is it for me to even know…or even understand.

    PS – you are not a bad person for seeing wrongs made right; it may not be desirable or helpful, but after all, such feelings and notions are what makes us all human.

  13. Yes – I believe in Karma – and I love the list. It fits very well with the frame of mind I’m trying to keep for the week. It’s only Tuesday so we’ll see how that goes. As for Karma – I think I have a similar experience to you where a few years after someone did something entirely preventable to me, something bad happened to them. I tried REALLY hard not to be gleeful – but yay karma!

  14. It seems like you’ve penned down my story. Everything in this article especially the fact that someone who had the power to help you out when you were in a terrible state but didn’t and only made it worse is my story as well. And very recently that someone had an event in their life that changed things for them in a bad way too. Needless to say, I felt happy too. So that makes both of us bad 😛

  15. Reblogged this on My Notes.. 🙂 and commented:
    While reading this article, I realised how much it felt like something I would write. It describes everything exactly as how I felt and experienced recently. Complete with the person who bothered me a lot getting back their share of misery, it’s my story. The only difference being, unfortunately I didn’t write it 😦 Makes for a great read, atleast it did for me as I could totally relate to it.

    P.S. I’m a bad person 😛

  16. Reblogged this on My Notes.. 🙂 and commented:
    While reading this article, I realised how much it felt like something I would write. It describes everything exactly as how I felt and experienced recently. Complete with the person who bothered me a lot getting back their share of misery, it’s my story. The only difference being, unfortunately I didn’t write it 😦 Makes for a great read, atleast it did for me as I could totally relate to it.

    P.S. I’m a bad person 😛

  17. I’m a Christian, but I believe in Karma to some extent as well. I’ve had a lot happen in my life – too much to mention here – but things tend to “come around” at some point. I don’t think we’re bad people to be justified in some way when someone who has hurt us, gets “hurt” back, but I do understand the guilt that comes with that feeling.
    I like the list you give here – I think many of them are good life instructions. If only more people would follow this list – I think the world would be a happier place. Thanks for this blog. Good stuff!

  18. There was a song back in the 70’s 😉 by the band Wet Willie. The lyrics still continue to play in my head when needed.

    Everything that you do … will come back to you
    … and it does;) with or without religious beliefs;)

    Great post!
    Cheers

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  20. Great post! It kinda makes me think about the idea behind “Karma’s a btch”. It could be a btch for the other person for experiencing the event after doing something bad to someone, OR it could be a btch for making us feel bad for feeling happy for what happened to that person. Gave me something to think about. The Dalai Lama section is very inspiring and put a little more sunshine to my day. I can only say I’m very thankful that I found this post! 🙂

  21. Good post, Personally I don’t think that you swore too much, in fact saying karma is a bitch is not swearing or offensive at all, it wasn’t directed at someone personally, it was a statement.

    I am not sure if Karma exists as such in terms of if someone does something bad to someone, then that person will be affected by some negative action further down the line. You just have to see all the criminals and other such undesirables to see that that doesn’t happen that often. But when it does, yeah I do the happy dance too.

    I like to do good deeds, but likewise I am sure that I am capable of non karma like actions. For example if I found a wallet full of money I would return it if I were able to find the person who had lost it, through an ID card maybe, but if there was no way to identify the person, I’d keep it. Generally though I want that person to go home or go to work and say, some guy did X for me today, and its that bit that I enjoy about it.

  22. Hey I just found this one. Thanks for re-posting.

    I don’t know about karma in the Buddhist sense though I certainly throw the term around. But schadenfreude like you experienced is very normal and natural. You’d have to be a saint not go take some comfort from bad things happening to people who did bad things. It’s a form of vindication and who doesn’t like to be vindicated?

    The thing is, I don’t think the thief died *because* he stole, but I do think he’s forfeited any right to sympathy because he stole and met his death as an indirect result. Even if it doesn’t fit the definition of karma it fits the “you reap what you sow” principle.

  23. I also believe in karma, although I think of it as a process that accumulates, both bad and good, over lifetimes. Sometimes when I get both sides of a lesson (such as experiencing being hurt in a way that I hurt others at some point in my life) I see it both for its learning potential and as karma payback.

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