Blogging Worries and Paranoia: Are We Limiting Ourselves?

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At the age of 18 I was one of 16 girls from college that decided to go to Malia, Crete, as part of an 18-30’s holiday (one of them met her future husband there) and we spent two weeks lazing about in the sun, drinking far more than we should and dancing the night away. I had a good time, but the trip was somewhat marred by the fact that one of the girls was openly hostile towards me right from the beginning. She activitely avoided engaging in any conversation with me, snapped at me on many occasions and at one point I think I remember that she shouted at me. I was confused by the situation and bent over backwards in an attempt to get into her good books with no avail. I knew that I hadn’t done or said anything to offend her, but at 18 years old I was quite a timid character and so allowed her to treat me badly as I was too scared to confront her about it (this would be very different now). After we returned we never spoke again. I have been offered a few explanations by mutual friends since, namely the fact that she had been going through a traumatic time in her personal life, but these don’t make sense to me as she was perfectly fine with the other girls. The only plausable reason for her behaviour was simply the fact that she just didn’t like me.

While this one particular girl’s opinion doesn’t concern me, this is a fact of life that I still find quite difficult to deal with, even at the age of 32. I’m now a much stronger character than I was in my teens and am perfectly capable of standing my ground, but I have still have an inherent desire to please people and would be lying if I said I didn’t care about what others think.

Ultimately, I want to be liked. Most of us do.

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The original purpose of starting this blog was to try and rid my brain of the messy thoughts that had been plaguing me for a long time through the process of writing. I was in the throes of a bad bout of depression and didn’t think anyone would read it, but as my following has grown beyond all expectations I have become far more paranoid about what I write. I read and then re-read my posts before I publish them, sometimes keeping them in the draft section until I am sure that I am absolutely happy with what I am sending into the blogosphere and I question myself all the time. Do others enjoy reading my posts? What if I offend someone? Why has that person unfollowed me? Is my writing good enough? What if someone I know reads it? Am I going to put somebody off with yet another picture of my cat? As a self-proclaimed stat obsessive I have also been known to worry about the lack of feedback I’ve received on posts that I have deemed to be good. Judging from a number of recent posts I have read recently, there are lots of bloggers who feel the same way.

But should the opinions of our potential readership determine the way that we write, and what we write about? Are we limiting our creativity and holding back our thoughts in an effort to please others?

The inspiration for this was based upon this post that I read about a week ago. The author clearly wasn’t bothered by the backlash that he must have known that he would receive and while I disagreed with the generalisations he made, I was almost envious at his confidence to post something despite knowing that he would ruffle a few feminine feathers.

Generally I have to be careful about the content of my posts because of the nature of my job, and anything that can be deemed to bringing my place of work into disrepute could result in my contract being terminated. Initially, I was paranoid about revealing too much about certain areas of my life and the ‘real me’, despite the fact that I sometimes actually wanted to write about it. I was scared of the reaction from others – I’ve always felt that issues of mental health are still quite a taboo subject and others don’t always want to hear about it.

Good news – how wrong I was! Over recent months I have been a bit more daring and started to divulge information on a more personal level, and have been pleasantly surprised by the positive feedback and support that I have received.

I found a brilliant post from The Sits Girls that offered a perspective on the same subject.

‘We all have that innate predisposition to worry about what someone will think of us if we let them see the “real” person behind the blog. That is human nature. But bloggers who have actually gone deep on a particular subject, sharing some personal stuff, are usually glad they do. The feedback is almost always positive because people can relate. Being a write-from-the-heart kind of blogger is very rewarding on a personal level. You don’t always have to bare your soul, but doing so every now and then will endear you to your readers.’

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However, if you are still concerned, I have a few hints and tips that you may find useful (and which I am going to try and follow myself).

  • Stay true to yourself. Don’t make things up in an effort to please others
  • Seek out people that share the same interests or who have experienced similar things.
  • If you are going to discuss a subject that may be deemed to be controversial, do so in a respectful way and avoid generalisation and being judgemental. Writing a post that insults an entire community of people is not going to do you any favours.
  • If you wish to remain anonymous and still promote your blog, create a separate Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest account to link your posts to and avoid telling friends and family about it.

And ultimately…

  • If you genuinely don’t want an element of you or your life to be read about, don’t write about it on a public blog.

Your blog is your blog. If you have an opinion about a subject, you are perfectly entitled to discuss whatever you like and my general experience of the blogging world is that it is a happy, supportive place. However, it is also important to understand that there are often those who may disagree with what you have written and accept that it is impossible to please everybody. In some cases, some people aren’t happy with anything and take great delight in ripping others apart.

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Learn the difference between someone who offers constructive criticism and a troll.

I’ve been lucky when receiving feedback from others – the majority of comments offered have been respectful, useful and encouraging and I generally view the blogging world as a supportive community. However, I have noticed that there is a distinct correlation between a bloggers popularity and the amount of negative comments that they receive, some of them being outright disgusting. While a public blog is open for anybody to read, there are several ways in which you can deal with this.

If someone offers constructive criticism:

  • Listen to what they have to say – they may actually have a point that you may not have considered
  • Respond politely
  • Ignore it
  • Carry on

If a troll leaves a comment:

  • Change your settings so that you have to approve the comment first, or disable the comment section entirely
  • Delete the comment
  • DO NOT respond to the comment
  • Report the comment (again, on a public blog there is very little that can be done about this unless the comment is extreme)
  • Carry on and do your best not to allow what they have written to affect what you think of yourself and your writing
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When it comes to blogging, the only opinion that should matter is our own. Do you enjoy what you have posted? Does it make you smile? Has it helped to heal some wounds? Have you made some new ‘friends?’ Then it’s worth it.

The important thing is that we don’t limit ourselves to what we are fully capable of on the notion that somebody might dislike what we say.  And if somebody doesn’t like it… well, it’s their loss.

Carry on blogging!!!

What about you guys? Do you get paranoid about what you write? Do you hold back from writing your true feelings about a subject in case you offend someone?

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119 thoughts on “Blogging Worries and Paranoia: Are We Limiting Ourselves?

  1. Thank you for this post – it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. I write my blog primarily for me, as a way of keeping myself on track as I find ways of overcoming anxiety. But…I want my bblog to help and inspire others too, and I get myself caught up between the two. A very timely post, thank you 🙂

  2. I write for no other reason but to please myself. I don’t write often enough, so my followers are left standing, not particularly waiting, nor anxious about it. If it’s there it is, and if it’s not, it isn’t.
    I struggle with subject. I write in a journal elsewhere, mostly an account of my day. I find I can’t write that way here, and have yet to find my own voice.
    Your dedication to write a post or two each day is noteworthy. Your voice seems established in your blog, and your subjects are mostly on the neutral sphere, careful and measured in parts. I’m wondering if you’ll one day free yourself from censorship? It’s all good though. Keep writing.

  3. Oh always! I’m generally a shy person, and there are things that even some of my closest friends didn’t know about me until recently! Sometimes I have to know if I can trust the person. I’ve learned that sadly, if you misjudge a person and think you can trust them too soon, it just might blow up in your face. When blogging, there are things that I’ve definitely not posted because I didn’t want people I know finding out. It’s probably also the reason I don’t have a bigger following on my blog; I don’t post it on Facebook. I know it would help my following, but I don’t care about that. I’d rather keep some things to myself because I don’t enjoy the poking and prodding of people’s many questions. I don’t know why, but I’m sensitive about it sometimes.

    So I feel your pain. I thought I’d be a little stronger about it now, but I’m not. I’m only now within the past year revealing how sensitive I really am. I hate it, but I need to be honest with myself about that.

    • I don’t have a link to Facebook purely because I am frightened that my friends will find my posts.

      I know what you mean about the questions… although I don’t tend to get questions as such, more comments than anything else…

    • Oh, I so loved your comment about not having a bigger following on your blog and the fact that you don’t post on FB. I don’t, either. Nothing wrong with that. To thine ownself…..Blog for you. The rest will happen….but not, heaven forbid, on Facebook!

  4. I had left you a long comment and it’s gone. So annoying. From here on I need to highlight my comment before pressing ‘comment’ icon. Incase it’s gone I can at least paste it back on. Sigh.

  5. This post touched on issues so many of us deal with on a daily basis. Every person has a quest to be “liked” and the truth is, not everyone in life is going to like you. One of my goals this year was to not allow that to bother me as much and I’ve actually been better. I am a happier person because I have the ability to acknowledge that people won’t like me, I won’t like all people. So be it 🙂 cresting a personal blog adds to that challenge, particularly when you’re a sensitive person like myself. I often feel exposed, but the process is cathartic at the same time. The overwhelming support always is greater than the haters. Haters are gonna hate.
    Also, I used to live in Malia when I was 21! I worked in the town right next to it. That place was wild! I was a token American because you Brits love the place- it was explained to me as England’s Cancun. Sorry some girl rained of the fun. Hopefully she’s grown up a bit.

    • Malia was mental – I’ve never been anywhere like it before or since! That’s so cool that you lived there!

      Totally agree about the support outweighing the haters…

  6. Great post. I over think everything, often. Daily. It’s quite stifling. I’m working on this personally. I think it’s a confidence thing. I’m trying to write myself through it. Forcing posts daily in the new year. Like exposure therapy. My little experiment. We’ll see how it goes. I always appreciate your insights. Thanks

  7. I have to watch what I say because of my job, but overall I am just me and running my mouth. Since, even when I am mad, I don’t tend to be too horribly mean then I don’t tend to censor myself.

    I do get some nasty comments about my efforts with weight loss, my pictures (which I just started putting up), eating disorder, etc. Some days I shrug it off others I want to cry and ditch the whole post. I still leave them up. I share a heck of a lot regarding my struggles with this as well as depression, etc. but the support i get from others being there for me overshadows any potential backlash I get.

    • I love your posts because you are so honest – and your pics look great! I’m just sorry that you’ve had to experience nasty comments. You have such a strong message and I’m sure that your blog is inspirational to the many that read it!

  8. Awesome post Suzie. I started blogging for myself…to have an outlet for the swirling thoughts in my head and I realized I loved writing. I knew I had to be careful, though, because I tend to want people to like me (co-dependency demons) and I didn’t want to get caught up in that. So, I refused to look at stats and get upset if any of my posts didn’t have a “like”. My goal was to keep on writing a fun and carefree (serious on occasion) blog and slowly build a following. I have not experienced any paranoia about my writing other than a feared lashing from the grammar police and I find it easy to be an open book because that’s who I am…very transparent. I do tend to stay away from confrontation, so you will probably not see a post about politics or a hot topic. I want readers to enjoy my blog page and not leave angry because of content or comments.

  9. Great post 🙂 I struggle with paranoid feelings when I’m blogging but then again I struggle with paranoia anyway. Haha. Seriously though, these feelings do restrict my creativity. One of the problems I’m having as a blogger is simply finding the courage to post more often. But it’s not because I can’t think of anything to blog about. It’s because the dozens of posts I want to write about will most likely turn people away. I write mystery and thriller stories and I’m passionate about the genre. This means I spend a great deal of my day up to my neck in dark and disturbing content. I have many thoughts revolving around true crime, from forensics and police work to serial killers and terrifying news stories.

    Unfortunately, I’m too paranoid to blog about these topics, even though doing so would make me seem more like an aspiring mystery novelist. I’m worried that I’ll be judged, that people will unfollow and think there’s something wrong with me. But as the urge to release some of the negative emotions inside me increases, so does the need to get things off my mind and let other people hear what I have to say. At the end of the day, my sanity is just as important as my following.

    I realize this was a long comment Suzie but I had a lot to say. Thanks for posting this!

    • Never apologise for a long comment – i’m always interested to hear what you have to say!!

      If it makes you feel any better I have had an obesession with forensics and the psychology of serial killers for years – I’ve got tons of books about it and my friends and family think I’m a little strange, but i find it fascinating. I’m not keen on images of their victims, but the stories behind how they were caught are really interesting to me…

  10. Please keep presenting yourself rather fearlessly, Suzie. I think you have found your own comfort zone.

    I think you are exactly right about popularity attracting trolls along with the honest folk. I used to work for a daily newspaper with its own site. It got millions of views and had oh-so-many trolls. Some went across the board, spreading their negativity equally among writers. Others would latch on to particular writers. My beat was music, and there was a troll who would immediately post, whether I was writing about community based musicians or national talent coming to play our town, ‘Who’s that?’ Another would immediately post ‘Crickets …’ Since I am telling you of this almost a year after I left that job, it did have an impression on me. Not a good one!

    With my much smaller blog here, I do not gauge possible reaction before I post. So far, my WordPress community has been encouraging and friendly. Honest opinion and frank discussion is always welcome in the comment section. I hope the ugly, one-note trolls stay away.

    Thanks for asking this interesting question out here in WP-Land.

  11. I absolutely love this post!! It’s an amazing feeling to know we’re not alone in our worries about what we put out there. Thanks for the great advice!

  12. I don’t get paranoid about what I post anymore than if I wasn’t posting it. I think there are people who say too much, but the fact they have probably indicates they are the sort who aren’t bothered about it. You either are or you aren’t. (that explanation didn’t solve anything !!!! LOL)

  13. My blog gets a few readers a day and fewer comments, so I have far less to consider. I’m also a teacher and need to present a clean blog, in a way a bit of a secret blog. The very first post of yours that I read impressed me for its open honesty. You’ve maintained that sense of being very real. To me you are very young but wise and mature and you’ve always been respectful.
    My tiny piece of advice is that not everything need be put before the public. Some things I write in my journal, and deeply personal content shows up in my (as yet unpublished) fiction. One of the enormous differences between your generation and mine is that we oldsters have a tendency to maintain more privacy. I wouldn’t say secrecy, but I think that some things are simply meant to be private, shared in conversation perhaps with a few very close friends, and written in a locked journal.
    There is an old story about a woman whose rabbi tells her to cut open a feather pillow. The feathers fly off into the wind. He then tells her to collect all of them and return them to the case. She stands befuddled, wondering how she can complete this task. He nods and reminds her that her gossip creates much the same problem.
    I’m not suggesting that what you write is gossip – you are too thoughtful and too considerate for that kind of trash – only that sometimes it’s best not to say or to write everything. A little mystery goes a long way and a sense of reserve is dignified.
    You have not crossed the line and I think you’re wise to recognize that there are a few borders to be honored.

  14. Suzie, much of the advice you offer about writing I absorbed in University. True, writers do have a moral obligation to consider the content of their text and your persistent editing is the mark of a good writer-I do it all the time. Brevity of words when writing for the web also works well, but I assume you already know this. With regard to worrying about what people think and needing to be liked, I reached a hiatus some years ago and became a member of C.B.A-The can’t be A***d fraternity. Faith, suffused with humility, in oneself is a wonderful thing which, I’m sure, you will acquire in your mud 40s. 😀

    As for the girl you speak of, she probably was a bully and probably still is. Life eh?

    Interesting read none the less and congrats on becoming freshly pressed.

    Talia.

    • I didn’t study writing at university – my degree is is music and so I am teaching myself as I go along… I need to take on more of the CBA idea I think…

  15. I think every intelligent blogger feels like you. I teach too so want to make sure my blog does not embarrass my students or faculty. I probably keep my most controversial stuff for my novels where I can really get into the grit of the matter under the cover of fiction although some things need to be said on this platform too. I wrote a post recently about how growing up in Northern Ireland meant being vigilant about whether the kerbstones on a street you’d wandered into were painted red, white and blue or green white and orange. I thought so long about it for fear of any kind of troll attacks or worse the ingrained fear of political backlash. But people were interested, curious,and that was it. I now think I over thought it. maybe I will even explore the subject further at some point. Bloggers usually surprise me with their generosity. Sometimes I wonder why some bloggers never respond, likening it to not saying thank you when someone holds the door open for you, but hey, it takes all sorts. There are more nice ones than not! That’s what we should focus on. Happy blogging!

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  17. Suzie I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately about sharing a secret on my blog that’s kind of a doozy and I think this post of yours has sealed the deal in making me think it might be ok to share, and not be shunned. Writing true and candidly and not censoring yourself is, to me, one of the most freeing, best feeling things to do – a blog should be a safe place to do it, right?

  18. I love this post! Just when I needed a boost. I’ve slacked off writing the last few days after a particular demoralizing comment was made on a recent post of mine, which I went ahead and allowed. Each time I read it however, it further destroys my confidence and thoughts. Is this how my readers truly see me? Up until this point, I’ve had polite comments, and being the introvert and anxious person that I am, this has just really thrown me into depression. I need to shake it off and move on, but I fear this person will only make further comments to cause hurt. People just do not realize the harm they can do with a post or comment. Thanks for being my shoulder to cry on. 🙂 I do so admire all you have accomplished with your blog.

  19. First of all, thank you for the “Like” on what is a very new blog for me. And secondly, I enjoyed reading your vulnerabilities re: what others think, and tips for bloggers. Having blogged incognito twice for serval years total, I get what you’re suggesting. I guess with this brand-new blog, I just want to say anything that I want to say. And I probably will.

  20. It is all recognizeable Suzie! For example I have a separate Facebook and e-mail account and blog for my cross dressing hobby. And since Mai last year, when I started my blog, I have had one hatemail. So I replied with the remark if this was his or her way (I think it came from an not respectable source) to tell me he/she was envious of the way I present myself. Never heard from again ^_^
    BTW I love to read your posts. Every time I tell myself: just read the first few lines, but then I’m totally into your subject and read the whole piece any way! please carry on!

  21. I enjoyed the post. I guess I just have never had an issue with writing or saying what I want. But then again, I have never felt the need to have “acceptance” from other… humans. There is a definite disconnection that needs to happen for someone to really feel free from the constraints of society. I also think hiding your real name helps. 🙂 -OM

  22. Yes to all the questions. I have very much felt this way. I am also scared of writing things that stay online forever instead of being able to throw it out. However, I really do like your tips. By the way, what is a troll and how do you know if you have one?

  23. Normally I am happy with my life but the other day I hit a bad patch and wrote about past memories that were upsetting me. It was therapeutic as the next day I was back to writing things that amuse me . I didn’t want to write about being sixteen as that was a bad time so I copied something I had been emailed from a friend which I thought was worth putting in my daily entry. It was a song sung by Julie Andrews to the tune of ‘my favourite things ‘. Someone didn’t like it as it mentioned false teeth and not being able to eat curry etc. The fellow blogger took it to mean her as she wrote that she has her own teeth and can eat curry and onions. I am old and thankful for it so what should I do? Write back and say it wasn’t about her or ignore it. Does she think I am a troll though she knows my real name?

    • Do you think that she would believe you if you said it wasn’t about her? Perhaps replying may make things worse as it would give the opportunity for an argument to develop?

  24. Great post, Suzie – you put your finger the different reasons many of us blog. I started blogging because I needed to put my writing “out there” – just writing without sharing or feedback was sterile. I am now hooked, and I love the contact with all the other bloggers.
    Am I paranoid about what I put on my blog? No. Do I follow my stats? No. I just check that nobody is locked in the spam room with the weirdoes from time to time. In my book, the sign that a post has been appreciated is the conversation it generates more that anything else.
    I only worried once that comments would be sparse, when I posted a humorous but caustic post about the Russian government’s attitude towards their gay community. I saw that my gut feeling was right. Many bloggers shy away from taking position publicly on this type of topic.

  25. I read this post and all the comments and it really made me think: how DO I find the right balance?
    I suck at writing and English is not my first language, so all I wanted to do when I started blogging was to post pictures I have taken. The problem? I still haven’t found the right style or voice. I’m so, so random in what I post. And that makes me worry all the time: should I write more? Post less? Am I making sense or making stupid language mistakes? Am I too personal? Or not enough? Does anyone really care?
    I know I should blog for myself, but sometimes these silly thoughts just won’t let go.

  26. Brilliant post, Suzie. Being a “has been” people pleaser I have previously also worried about what I blogged about too, but in the long run I found that being true to myself was/is the only way to go.

  27. I think we all struggle a bit with this. Given I write under my name I wonder how far to go, if I might look back and cringe, if someone I know might think less of me for something I wrote etc… But I’m fairly certain everyone who’s ever written anything feels that way – so I try not to fixate on it. I think a large part of my enjoyment in this is finding my voice and space as me.

    It’s funny though – I was watching a rerun of the Good Wife on Sunday where the firms investigator is doing a “test” screening of one of the main lawyers because she is being considered for a judgeship. She (incorrectly) uncovers that she writes Vampire Diary Fan Fiction online and tells her it needs to come down or the “ridicule factor” will ruin her chances for the appointment. First thing I insanely thought? Maybe I should take my blog down because it will impact promotion at some future date. Self doubt and fear of judgement can be huge motivators if you let them.

  28. Very good post Suzie, this subject matter has been weighing heavily on my heart for the last 24 hours. I have a post coming that is related to racism. I am going to surely make my former employer enraged. I was in the event industry and movie industry for years. I left my career of 16 years about 18 months ago. My husband and I will be moving out of state in a couple weeks. The topic I am going to approach may stop me from ever being gainfully employed ever again. I am torn, but I do trust God/the universe will provide. I am 52 years old and have come to a place in my life that I really could care less if I am judged. Last night I watched a movie called the Butler, I had no idea what that movie was about. The only reason I rented it is because Oprah was a star in the movie, I was a guest on the Oprah show when she was on daytime. Watching the movie was like the universe was giving me a confirmation, saying move forward with what you want to blog. Being quiet sometimes can be just as bad as not speaking out and coming forward when unjust criminal and immoral acts are happening with our knowledge. So I am torn, again, this is a great post and thank you for sharing, I needed to hear this. Have a beautiful day and I enjoy your posts. Sorry to have rambled so much.
    XXOO Becki

  29. In my opinion, what your blog content becomes is as “easy” as with any other writing: choose your audience. Even if that audience is just you because, believe it or not, yes, there *are* others like you out there somewhere, and they are just waiting for someone to articulate how they feel, or what they enjoy.
    That said, I’ll admit since I sometimes use my blog as an example of one style of my writing, for prospective clients, I have severely reined-in my less acceptable language, and use it primarily as a type of punctuation – which is how I believe “bad” words should be used anyway.
    If a reader or client is interested in that style, they’ll “buy it” or they won’t. I write for *my* audience.

    • My problem is that I’m not entirely sure what my audience is – I am followed by people of all ages, races, religions and interests, which is why I think I haven’t developed a theme on my blog overall. Thanks for your comment!

      • “I’m not entirely sure what my audience is…”
        That is my point entirely. You are allowing “everyone” to direct your content. A post for “everyone” is like “perfect”; you can chase it for all you’re worth – it doesn’t exist.
        If you want consistency, you need to choose your audience, not the other way around. In addition, a writing “voice” is not the same as a theme.
        Here’s an example:
        1. Choose your audience – Young-ish, upscale couples (sounds horribly limiting).
        2. Choose your “voice” – Just write what you’d say conversationally, or perhaps you had a particularly cool humanities teacher in school, so you write using the style and mannerisms you remember best about that teacher. That’s your voice.
        3. Set your Theme – Opera (my god, even more limiting). You never state your audience or theme explicitly, that just happens to be what you tend to talk about at this crowded party.
        So now you expect, maybe, five people will read this stuck-up blog you’ve created.
        To your amazement you find that other people who enjoy that teacher’s style stop by frequently, just for the way the words are put together.
        What’s this? A comment from someone who detests yuppies, but stops by frequently to see what “those people” are up to.
        Then, just as happens at a real party, random people stop by, maybe enjoy the style, or enjoy learning something new, or who want to hear about what younger, or wealthier, or “smarter” people talk about… and when you write that post about crappy parking around the theater, they find they can actually participate in the conversation! Never been to an opera, but sure as hell know what crappy parking is. Or they know about their spouse talking right at the important part of a story (opera, movie, TV, it’s all the same).
        … and then there are those young-ish, upscale couples you thought you were writing for.

        I am unapologetic if this horribly long comment helps even one blogger. Otherwise, oh my god, I am soooo sorry!

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  31. Suzie, I started to make a comment here. And, as is my wont, it got lengthy…..very lengthy. 😉 So I’ve done a post instead. Thank you for this tonight. It made every bit of sense that I needed it to make. Strange how you’ve always been there for me when I’ve been feeling a bit rough. Many thanks for this post. You are a gem. A woman and a half. And a privilege to know. x

  32. Suzie, I found you through Scottishmomus, who is now out of the closet, thanks to your honesty. I like your writing and your honesty. I prefer being honest myself, and people I know read my posts, and I am really me. That’s a bit of a responsibility to me. I don’t mind it, though, since my blog is kid-friendly, it’s also everyone friendly. I didn’t start to vent or rant or voice opinions, I’ve always kept those pretty private. I just love to tell stories, take photos and celebrate. I’d be happy if everyday had something to celebrate, and I try to make it so. 🙂 I’ll come back and get to know you some more later. Cheers, Brenda

  33. Hi Suzie!
    Thanks for visiting and liking my blog.
    This post was really worth re-blogging. I consider my blog as my personal space, my alter-ego, a place where I can write without inhibitions. I believe, with blogging there comes a sense of responsibility. Slowly and gradually as you advance to an experienced blogger, we have to sometime think about our readership as well, What do our readers like ? But I too have experienced that personal posts are well appreciated by readers and fellow bloggers because somewhere or the other we have touched upon the lives of a lot of people. And this is what blogging is all about.- making a difference with our thoughts. Cheers! 🙂

  34. Very true post Suzie, I used to think what people thought, but that was to do with years of bullying from people much stronger than me, now I don’t give a damn, I will write what I want and if anyone has a problem with it, let me know and I will tell you to piss off, its my life, my words, my ideas and no one can stop me having them. But if anyone is having any problems like this come and contact me I will try and help.
    Thanks again for the post Suzie, much appreciated

  35. I really enjoyed reading this post, well I enjoy reading all your post but this one just hit home. I posted a little bit today about my anxiety and I ended up looking at it like 12 times after I posted it. I was nervous about the fact that I posted. This made me feel better. Thanks!

  36. Lovely post and great advice. OM was my first inspiration actually. I do have a separate twitter, facebook and goggle + as well because here I am me with the good and the bad. I do believe the more you write the better you get at it. The more I read great posts like yours and other amazing, creative blogs, I improve and this blog, for me, started out as a way to just write uncensored anytime what was on my mind. It has become a breath of fresh air getting comments and times, suggestions to improve a line or verse. Thank you for this lovely post. Oliana xx

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  39. This is quite interesting (and a bit humorous) that you are the second blogger in as many days who has made the comment about putting readers off by posting pictures of your cats. My blog is about pets…which happen to be three (very lovely) cats. Whoever reads, reads….
    We are all so thin-skinned when we are younger, aren’t we? If not, then we were all bitches. Can’t win. I have enjoyed your writing. Carry on and quit worrying. You win some; you lose some. Those who stick with you…they are the winners. And so are you.

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