I Quit My Job Today

I quit my teaching job today

Throughout my life I have done everything that I felt was expected of me. I worked hard in school, achieved good grades in my GCSE’s and A Levels, went to a respected music conservatoire and then was lucky enough to find myself in a full-time job as a Learning Mentor almost immediately after graduating. Within a year, I was offered an opportunity to train as a teacher, and I’ve worked as a qualified music teacher for nearly ten years. I’ve always played it safe, followed the expected path, and never taken any risks. I can say that I’m happy to an extent, but not as much as I know I could be.

At the beginning of 2015 I made one promise to myself: if things were going to change, it had to be now – I was going to take the risk.

For some, teaching is a vocation. It isn’t mine. I’m a good teacher. In fact, according to my last three years worth of lesson observations, I’m an outstanding teacher, but I never set out to join this profession – my personal circumstances and being in the right place at the right time meant that I fell into the role rather than actively working towards it as a career choice.

I’ve been lucky to spend the last three years in an outstanding academy, with an excellent and well-respected principal, a great management team and a lovely faculty. Over the course of my career, I’ve worked with thousands of teenagers, most of whom are wonderful and who I have always had excellent working relationships with, and I feel like I’ve done it all. I’ve attended every parents evening, open evening, celebration evening and awards evening and I’ve hosted or participated in hundreds of concerts. I’ve supervised the day trips, evening performances, week-long UK based residentials and visits to France and America. I’ve played the role of teacher, parent, therapist, doctor, personal banker and seamstress to my students. I’ve laughed with them, cried because of them and mourned the few that I’ve lost. I’ve returned home at the end of a day on a huge high after brilliant lessons, and had endless sleepless nights after bad ones. During times when heavy deadlines have been looming, insomnia and I have become good friends.

I’m a firm believer in the idea that total career satisfaction is unattainable for most; some days will be good, some days will be bad and others will make you question every career choice you have ever made whilst glugging on a bottle of wine and crying on the cat, but I’ve always presumed that as long as the good outweighs the bad then you’re generally doing the right thing.

The good has not outweighed the bad for a long time. Today, I took the risk.

Today, I quit the teaching profession…

Despite the amazing opportunities I have been offered from my headteacher and support I have received from some of my colleagues over the years, I genuinely can’t remember the last point where I had a consistently positive period of time in teaching. To put it quite simply, I can’t cope with the pressure, and it’s making me ill.

In an ideal world, a teacher’s role is to teach, to support and to guide their students. It is our job to offer advice, to ensure progress is made, to make learning interesting, to inspire and to listen to their needs.

Unfortunately, in the real world, I’ve found that many teachers work far harder than lots of their students. Modern day teaching, even for those that are employed in effective schools, is not about fostering and encouraging a love of learning and a passion for a subject, it is about getting students to pass an exam or a course using criteria that is set by an exam board whilst being bombarded by data and outcomes, none of which the students will be held accountable for if they fail. It has now become a teacher’s job to almost do the work for the lazier kids because they’re scared of how the results will look. The kids know this too – I was even once told ‘you’re not allowed to fail me‘ by a smug student when I informed him that his grades weren’t good enough – and one of my biggest worries for them in their future lives is that when they do fail for the first time, it will be at a much higher cost and there won’t be an adult to step in and make everything better. Our lessons and the ability to do our jobs effectively are decided based upon a twenty minute observation and the data that demonstrates our students progress, our wages now depend on it, and I have seen accomplished and respected members of staff reduced to tears at the mere mention of OFSTED.

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The pressure of the job has intensified every single year that I have been in the profession, and eventually it started to take a toll on my health. A year ago I was hospitalised with a severe kidney infection and a virus for nearly a week, followed by a further five weeks off in order to recover. This was caused because I ignored a urinary tract infection, mainly because of how busy I was. I can’t and don’t blame the school for this, but it is a common part of the job that members of staff within a school environment will work through illnesses because of the workload and worries about the detrimental impact that time off will have on their students.

My school and colleagues were very supportive and I returned in reasonable physical health, but that didn’t change the fact that the workload was there, and mentally I was sinking. I missed deadlines left and right. I had so much to remember that I forgot everything. However, what I found to be most frustrating were the pressures put on me with the older students and the achievement of their target grades, pressures that were not set by the school, but by government based targets. I started to feel constantly anxious and suffered from minor panic attacks, something that I had never experienced before. My mindset changed. I found it increasingly difficult to tolerate the laziness and apathy that some of my students demonstrated on a daily basis. I bent over backwards and exhausted myself hosting further coursework catch up sessions almost every night after school, repeatedly remarked coursework that was substandard due to the fact that some of my students didn’t bother to listen in the lessons and as it got closer to exams I became a verbal punching bag for stressed out teenagers. I rang parents, got other members of staff involved, praised, sanctioned and gave up a lot of my personal time to drag them (often kicking and screaming) to the finish line. Worse still, I started to take it personally and really dislike some of my students attitudes, particularly when they threw my hard work and support back in my face during their moments of stress. This is a common problem throughout the British education system, and is one of the biggest issues that all of my teacher friends have experienced in their careers. I remember that one friend in particular remarked that one of her most difficult classes was more focused on crowd control, not teaching.

At Christmas I realised that I simply couldn’t do it anymore. I had no idea what I was going to do instead, only that I knew that this was not how I wanted to spend the rest of my working life. Perhaps I am looking at life through rose-tinted spectacles, but I believe that happiness is more important than most things, and I was desperately unhappy. I was doing myself, and the students, a huge disservice.

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I discussed it with The Bloke. We’re not married, we don’t have children or a mortgage and my only financial responsibilities are for my half of the rent and bills, the cat’s medication and vet treatments and a small loan I took out a few years ago. We’re not rich, but I have enough in savings to cover everything for a few months. At the age of 33, if I was going to do anything, it was now, and while I could see that he was (and still is) nervous about it, he has been steadfast in his support. Having witnessed what I’ve been through in the last few years, he wants me to be happy, and I’m grateful.

I am going to work until the end of the academic year, which is July and then that’s it, giving me about six months to find another job. No more data analysis and unrealistic targets, no more reports, no more relying on the performance of demotivated teenagers to prove that I am good at my job. However, I’m going to miss the school, my wonderful colleagues and most of those fantastic cherubs that I have been privileged to work with over the years. Taking such a huge risk is terrifying, but not nearly as terrifying as the thought of having to do another year in a job that could potentially destroy me both physically and mentally. I need to be happy. I’m walking away from a secure ten year career with an excellent salary, a brilliant boss and a strong pension, without another job to go to yet…

… and I couldn’t be more excited!

What about you guys? Have you ever taken a huge risk?

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438 thoughts on “I Quit My Job Today

  1. Hey Suzie, congratulations on making this step! I left my job at the end of 2013 as a mental health therapist and my family move to a new area 13 hours away from our home town to a place I have never visit. When I left my job, I had no idea that we were going to be moving too. It was scary but I am enjoying this new chapter in my life. Best wishes to you! πŸ™‚

  2. Congratulations Suzie! Two years ago, I quit my job, sold my house, and moved from New Hampshire to Florida. I hated my accounting job in a cubicle and knew I couldn’t do it any longer. I was miserable. The last year in the cubicle I almost lost my mind but instead I wrote a book in my “spare” time and self-published it.

    In Florida I have more time to write. I will be publishing my third novel by the end of this month. I still have to supplement my husband’s income with part-time bookkeeping money but I am so much happier and calmer and sane.

    I wish you all the luck in the world, Suzie. I am confident you made the right choice.

    • Thanks so much Sheila! I think that it has to be a ‘now or never’ situation to do something like that, and I’m so glad things are going well for you! You write beautifully…

  3. Good for you. Education has devolved into a playground of politics, government, and corporations, none of which have any idea about young people or how to teach them. After 25 years of teaching, I quit and joined The Peace Corps, teaching English at a Slovak university overseas. After two years of learning the language, the politics, the customs,and enjoying the company of my students and friends, I came home to the USA. At first, I tutored. Then, I took a job as a Mentor Teacher to new teachers at a high school. I thoroughly liked working with them and helping them succeed in their careers as teachers, although I no longer held classes of my own. For years before teaching, I had jobs as assistants to celebrities, as a publicist for a television studio, for 15 years. You are at a good age to change careers. Decide what makes you happy and then pursue it.

    • Wow – your story is fascinating! I started my teaching career as a learning mentor, but I would never have the nerve to join anything like the Peace Corps! I bet you have some wonderful stories to tell haha!

      • Thanks for commenting. Wait a few years, and you might consider The Peace Corps or another organization that offers a different kind of life style and new adventures. I wish you the very best in pursuing a new career that will bring you satisfaction and joy.

  4. First of all, congratulations! It is a bold move you are doing and I applaud you for it! Well done you! Secondly, I have written on my blog of my hubby’s health. He was working 20 hour days for years, only taking the four hour break to sleep. It affected his health in the same way, memory loss, not meeting deadlines, and illness. Stress kills. Stress is awful. I am a firm believer now of getting rid of the stress in your life. Life and those you love are too precious to watch from an exhausted sideline. Something will come up. Things will happen. They just do. Answers come from places you never before thought of. This is an exciting time for you. I will be praying for you. Us? Stepping out? We are in the process of buying our retirement home, on five acres in the country… scares the you know what out of me… but I am so excited! Great post today, well done!

  5. When one door closes another opens . . .

    A couple of suggestions that I have found useful since I quit 15 years ago. You’ve got skills – use them.

    i. Try private tuition.

    ii. Try exam marking – Two months a year will bring in approx Β£3,000

    You won’t make as much as you’re on now but there is a flexibility and freedom that will open the door for further opportunities.

    I’ve read many of your posts over the past twelve months and wondered how you coped.

    Good luck to you..

    • Thanks so much – I had thought about the private tuition but the exam marking hadn’t even crossed my mind! I’m going to look into that now… Really appreciate the advice!

      • You might try Cambridge International Examinations. Summer and winter papers. Β£1,500 – Β£2,000 each time (approx 4-5 weeks). Quite intense when it’s happening but you can see the light at the end of the tunnel because of the cut off date. Good luck to you.

  6. I’m happy you’re doing what’s right for you, Suzie! This is a wonderful post, so well written. Though I am not a teacher, I feel I can understand your pain. I’ve known plenty of teachers who would agree wholeheartedly with your thoughts on the devolution of the profession thus far.

    • Thanks so much – I’ve been absolutely gobsmacked by the amount of feedback I’ve received from teachers who feel the same way. It’s such a shame that a once respected profession now contains so many unhappy employees! Thanks for your support!

  7. Congratulations Suzie for making the decision and acting on that decision! I quit a cushy job (which paid really well) last year because I couldn’t stand the backstabbing and negative environment – it was so negative where the boss allowed a diva in the office to scream at colleagues and subordinates when things didn’t go her way. I was the one who the diva screamed at, and for the next 6 months, it impacted my self-esteem and I dragged my feet to work everyday. I even faked a sick leave because couldn’t bear the thought of going into the office. By the end of 6 months, I quit the job and accepted another which paid less but an amazing positive working environment. My new colleagues are more accepting and cooperative, they laugh a lot, and love to share food, jokes, etc. My new boss is ever willing to teach and share information, and he genuinely encourages teamwork without politics (Well, there is no such thing as no politics but at least, it’s considerably reduced in this new company). I wake up every morning feeling better about myself, and as a results, able to contribute better to my job.

    Thanks for sharing, Suzie…and I wish you all the best in future endeavours πŸ™‚

    • Thanks Kat. I worked in a similar environment at a previous school – my boss would scream at me and belittle me in front of the kids, and despite my complaints nobody did anything about it. There were eight people who left in as many years because of her behaviour… I’m so glad you’re much happier in your new job. I’m lucky that I work with a really wonderful group of people, whom I would consider to be friends, but unfortunately it isn’t enough… Thanks for sharing your story with me!

  8. When your job adversely affects your health, then it’s time to make a change. We are not living in Victorian times when lung disease and other work related health issues could not be avoided and workers had nowhere to turn if they wanted to provide for themselves and their families. Nowadays there are a lot more options but it is a scary thing to do, taking that step out of financial security. It’s an exciting time for you, enjoy the changes you are bringing about in your life, Suzie.
    When my husband found himself out of work about fourteen years ago we sold our house, and moved to Spain with 17 year old twins and a three year old. We had never even been to Spain for a holiday. We would have lost our house to the bank in Ireland, if we had stayed much longer, as we were struggling with mortgage payments. Within six weeks my husband had work and we stayed for almost 8 years, until the recession brought us back home. Sorry for the long comment, I just wanted to assure you that whatever you decide to do about work, you made the right decision in leaving a situation that was affecting your health. I wish you and The Bloke all the very best in this new phase of your life.

    • Thanks Jean – I totally agree! I was really fascinated by your story – you must have had some wonderful experiences! Thanks so much for your support – I’ll keep you updated!

  9. I’ve quit several jobs without the next one ‘in the queue’ because I had allowed myself get so burned out by the time I quit that I couldn’t imagine being ‘up’, smiling, and enthusiastic during any interviews I might have gotten. The financial road has been a little rough because of this, but when I think about those jobs and possibly still being in them, that would have been much worse. Somehow I’ve always landed on my feet. It’s been especially scary because I’ve been doing it alone since divorcing at age 26, and not having family support. You did the right thing! Just trust in your decision and breathe and know that when you take care of yourself, the right things will come to you.

    • You must be an incredibly strong person to be able to push yourself through all that with no support – kudos to you! Thanks for sharing your story with me, it’s inspiring to know that there are people out there who have been in similar situations and are making it work!

  10. I’ve been feeling the same kind of stress at my own job but haven’t had the courage to do anything about it. I’ve been teetering on the fence a lot lately. Kudos to you for having the courage and support to take such a great leap of faith! And thank you for a daily dose of inspiration/food for thought! πŸ™‚

    • Thanks so much Betty! I think that it is a case of now or never… I’ve been going back and forth for a long time and I was starting to annoy myself – I never gave myself an opportunity to relax as I was always looking for something else. Who knows I may find that the grass isn’t greener on the other side, but at least I will have tried… Good luck to you!

  11. You go girl. Thirty-three is young; you have plenty of time to try out a new things (or go back to what you were going to do before you became a teacher!) and find what suits you better. Far riskier to stay until your health is further affected or until doing what is burning you out causes so much resentment and bitterness that you no longer can perform to your own standards. Erica Jong said it: “If you don’t take any risks, you risk even more.”

    • Thanks Paula – I love that quote too! It’s been quite exciting to think about all of the things that I would like to do, and work out where my skills and qualifications would fit into it… I can but try – I did think I would feel more relieved than I do though?

      • Not at all surprised that you don’t feel that relieved; uncertainty is uncomfortable, which is why so many of us stay so long with the devil we know. And a little bit of anxiety sharpens the saw. If it starts interfering with your discernment process, that’s another matter.

  12. Good on you, Suzie. I strongly believe in following your instinct. I can think of three life-changing occasions when it has served me well. Haven’t looked back and neither will you,

  13. I can relate on about 50 different levels! I’m also an educator and am leaving a teaching job because I need something that will suit me better. And yahoo! I’m on the way! I can’t wait to see what next year will be like. Good luck, sweety!

  14. So inspired by you. Yes. I’ve taken risks and I was scared to death. I felt like I was flying without wings and free falling without a parachute for quite awhile, but when I finally landed, it was in a better place than I jumped from! Congratulations for owning your life! Kudos for doing while you have so much of it left!

    • Thank you very much! It’s been so interesting to find out other people’s stories and realise that you’re not alone. What are some of the risks you have taken?

  15. Good for you, I felt a huge weight was lifted when I quit teaching. You are made to feel like the workload is normal and that the holidays make up for it, but in reality you put your life on hold for months at a time and fall ill at the start of every holiday when your body is finally allowed to relax. A lot of what you describe here happened to me as well, and I also have no idea what I will do when we return to a country where I can work!

  16. I didn’t even make it past student teaching. You know that I was a music education and primary grades (elementary) education student, right?

  17. Wow!! Suzie, good for you, and bless you. I hope you take enough time off to clear your head, get well and find something that suits you better. Things will work out. They always do. I took a huge risk years ago when my kids were little. I went to work for a brand new company where salaries were high and things looked fantastic. It didn’t work out and I left after 9 years but while there I got to work part-time and spend more time with my kids when they needed me. Every risk is worth it. You don’t know until you try.

    • Thanks so much my lovely! I have loved hearing everyone’s stories about the risks they have taken and how it worked out in the end… Thanks for sharing yours! Thanks for the support, as always!

    • Thank you so much for your reblog! I have been reading your blog for months – it has been incredibly inspiring and has helped me to feel comfortable about my decision…

      • Thank you! I’m so glad that the blog has helped you. I’ve enjoyed reading your blog, too — it helps validate my own experiences in teaching and blogging. Hope my blog continues to be useful as you figure out what’s next!

  18. Congratulations, and welcome to the club! (July is close enough πŸ™‚ ) Couldn’t pass up the opportunity to reblog. I know your story will help inspire my readers to take risks and defy expectations in their own lives. Thanks for sharing your experience!

    • Thank you so much for your reblog! I have been reading your blog for months – it has been incredibly inspiring and has helped me to feel comfortable about my decision…

  19. Suzie, I am so sorry to hear that you are making this decision but I stand behind you. I’m not surprised by your choice to leave the teaching profession, as the first of your posts I remember reading was the one about what to tell students when they are failing.You questioned whether teachers should tell kids the truth or sugarcoat and lie. I made a long comment about that post.
    Your students are going to miss a great teacher and that’s my only regret. There simply are not enough exceptional teachers, and you are one of the few. The irresponsible students and parents who brought about this situation will never suffer the consequences, as they’re gone, and only those currently in your classes will miss you because of their missed opportunities. The rest are missing the chance to be in your class and that’s so unfortunate.
    But you must do what your heart tells you. You’ve found joy and have notable passion for writing. I suspect that a memoir or instructional book, maybe a novel, is in your future. I’ve always been impressed by your intuition and insight about teaching, relationships, opportunities, and life. Every post you write is rich with detail and ideas that inspire and inform. Write, Suzie, as I suspect it will bring you the joy that you’ve been missing from teaching.
    So you do what you need to do and what you want to do. You never meant to teach but look what a great teacher you’ve been. Go do something you meant to do – I can only imagine what great things you’ll accomplish with your heart in it! You’re gonna be a star! And best of all you’re gonna be happy.

    Shari *: )

    • Sharon, your comments are always so beautifully written and supportive – thanks, as always! In an ideal world, writing would be exactly what I want to do, I just don’t know how to go about it! I’m going to spend some of Easter researching! Hope you’re doing ok? Are things better?

      • Thanks for your concern, Suzie, – in the midst of your career transition, you inquire about me. Short answer – no, unfortunately, much worse.

        But this blog is about you. There are many books, blogs, workshops, and courses about writing. I suggest you go slowly as you determine what you’d like to write and figure out how to do that. Keep in mind that publishing is a whole different animal but the phenomenal success of your blog will help you there. (I started my blog about the same time you began yours, for the reason of supporting my writing.)

        Meanwhile, perhaps keep a journal (even more than what you’ve written here) about this experience of becoming a retired teacher and then becoming something else while always maintaining the Suzie that is your core. That might be your first book.

        Best to you in all your pursuits.
        Shari

  20. wow! all the best and I am sure you will do great where ever you go. I have taken risks and I can still say, I dont love them as much. but yes, there is a lot of learning in each!

  21. Suzie, I am very happy for you. You have done the right thing, even if your next move doesn’t work out. You have to try, miserableness alone will suffocate you. I am still in the middle of changing careers and of course I have good and bad days, but hell I have to give it a go, Best wishes, MM πŸ€

  22. I have worked with caring for people suffering from dementia, some of them has been younger than what one expects, it is all about the brain – if it starts to deteriorate, then it (life as you know it – being able to function, care for yourself and enjoy it) might all be over soon (sounds dramatic but it is actually a, sad, fact). Putting yourself through negative stress is like taking the highway to that state…

    • I totally agree. My grandfather suffered from dementia and it was truly awful to watch his deterioration. You must be a wonderful person to have had that job – so much patience and empathy is needed!

      • You are right, that kind of job is all about patience and empathy, I can`t say IΒ΄m a wonderful person though, … Also I quit that job, because of the negative stress, that comes from never being able to suffice. I wish you a great “new beginning” in this change that you have made.

  23. Good for you! It’s hard to take that step but I’m sure you already feel some of the relief you need. Hope your last few months are as stress free as possible. Enjoy the summer and get back to you x

    • Thanks Beth! It’s certainly one of the most difficult decisions I have had to make, but I don’t anticipate any regrets. And oh, how I’m looking forward to the summer!

  24. I came across this blog from a link a music teacher from my old school posted on Facebook. I read the piece without looking at the name of the blog or the about section. By the time I had got to the end, I knew who wrote as the use of language used sounded familiar it took me my final years of school ~8 years ago. The fact you had such an impact I can remember the way you speak is a testament to how good a teacher you were and I have no doubt that you will be just as excellent in whatever career you end up in.

    All the best.

    Rob Temperton
    (an old music student of yours, currently doing a PhD in Physics)

    • Rob! How are you my lovely! What a lovely thing to say – thank you. So glad to see you’re doing well (and the fact that you are now doing your PhD makes me feel incredibly old). Are you still playing the cello?

  25. A wonderful heartfelt post that i’m sure will have struck a note with many of your readers. Congratulations on taking the next step. A whole world of adventure is ahead. Enjoy (if you can) those last days in the classroom in the knowledge that you have made a positive difference in so many young lives.

    • Thanks Angie. I have been lucky to have worked with lots of amazing young people, and I know that the next few months will be so much easier with the knowledge that I won’t have to deal with it September haha!

  26. A brave decision – but the right one. I understand your excitement and I’m happy for you. You’ll be surprised how well you’ll get along with one salary πŸ™‚

    • Thanks Sabine! I hope that we won’t have to live on one salary as I’ve got 6 months before I have to start a new job, but I’m sure that we’ll manage! Thanks so much for your support!

  27. Congrats! I look forward to your bog in July. Not that I don’t now, but relaxed and happy, your writing may be different. I know someone that started giving music lessons out of her house and now owns a thriving music school/coffee shop that brings joy to many. That could be you! I changed careers 8 years ago when I was unhappy and it’s worked out. I’m glad I took the risk. You can always go back to teaching if you need to or teach in a different capacity.

  28. Congrats! I too left a career in teaching after a decade, and relate to your experience. Teaching was actually my second career. My first was as a nurse. I loved both jobs, but I only worked at them for financial reasons. I am blessed that my husband does well and allows me to be a free-spirit, but I am now a part-time nanny, author, and stained glass artisan, and I love every minute of it. I have thought about going back to school but can not decide on a major. Someday maybe. Meanwhile- enjoy! It is a frightening and exhilarating adventure pursuing a new direction. Feast on it. And don’t think that it will be your last. Life may give you more opportunities in the future.

      • Honestly, my youngest son graduated and all of my financial motivation graduated with him. I could have moved from the private school to the public system, but I really didn’t want to work that hard.

        My mother in law taught me stained glass basics, and I inherited her studio about 5 years ago. It’s a hobby but I really enjoy it. The hubs and I go to several fairs a year. It’s fun.

        Seriously, good for you! Embrace joy!

  29. I left teaching after 12 years. I always knew it would be temporary (while my daughter was in school), and I never grew to love it. I had developed depression, acid reflux and insomnia. I am back in the private sector and happier. It is a difficult step. Congratulations!

  30. Wow – good luck! I give teachers like you credit! I could never do it – students are monsters! I hate the idea of being a teacher – but it was my teachers who put the passion of learning into me, and I could not be more grateful, so I wish you all the best of luck!

    My most recent “risk” is the decision to go back to graduate school…again. I have a master’s degree, but I want to be an Occupational Therapist and so on to school I go – I’m really nervous about securing funding (HELLOOOOO 6-figure loan-debts!) and taking the plunge, but it’s overwhelmingly exciting! What’s life without a little risk – especially if that risk is going to put you in a better place mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually?!

    • Congratulations on starting a new course and a change of career – it takes a lot of guts to do that! Yes, the debts are astronomical but it’s worth it in the end! Keep me posted as to how you get in – thanks for the support!

  31. Reblogged this on Yolanda.Ashton and commented:
    As an educator facing a similar decision, I really related to this blog. I applaud your courage Suzie! This blog has been a wake-up call. Hope you guys enjoy reading it as much as I did πŸ˜‰

  32. This was the final straw for me — you’ve said it exactly, “…many teachers work far harder than lots of their students…” Congratulations and good luck! I’m very happy I’m out of it after 30+ years!

  33. Congratulations! I’m working at a job that I feel is slowly killing my spirit. I wish I had the courage to do what you have done!

  34. I am so very proud of you- and I haven’t ever met you! I reached the same conclusion this past year. As a. Day job, I’ve been an Executive Assistant (with a bachelors and some grad school and certifications like crazy) and at first it was fine. Respect was there. In the last 18 years though the position has morphed into being a trusted confidante and support to an executive, respected, to basically a departmental secretary having everyone throw things you way and not understanding that things take time when you have 17 bosses, only one of which I am officially supporting. There’s no way to please 17 bosses at once. Respect is gone. I’m just a grunt. Thankfully, a series of events has released me from the situation.

    So. Onto the next chapter. I think I know the direction (compass) but I’m far from knowing all the details. That’s ok. I do what I know I need to do each day and God will reveal the rest to me as I need to know it.

    I’ve spent far too many years doing what others expected of me. I’m all for keeping my responsibilities but I’m 47 yrs old. More than half my life is over. It’s time I lived more on my terms, with the Gifts and Talents God has given me- far more beautiful than typing 55wpm or meeting notes. πŸ™‚

    Have you listened to the song by Jewel, “Life Uncommon”? That is what I’m calling the next phase of my life. I suspect you might like it.

    Brava! Bravissima! Can’t wait to hear more of your journey. I wish you many blessings and applaud you for your courage!
    Love,
    KaiCarra

    • Thank you very much for sharing your story with me – I’m so pleased that you’re figuring out your path. My mum (who is much older than you – please don’t think I’m making comparisons on age) is in a similar situation – she was a respected PA and now she has seven different bosses and spends all day arguing with people because of the unreasonable demands they make on her… Good luck!

  35. Congratulations to you on taking this step, and I mean that. I was in a similar situation. I left the teaching profession myself back in 2006. In the USA, I saw where classrooms were headed almost as soon as I graduated college and started looking for a job. In NY there are standardized tests called regents exams which high-schoolers have to pass. I was student teaching before I ever saw one to grade. It was never addressed in college, and whenever I asked about it, I was hushed. The education training almost refused to admit they existed, so I was shocked to see just how thoroughly the classroom was tailored to fit these tests. It wasn’t what I wanted to do, so I left.
    I bummed around in IT for a while, hating it and never once thinking I’d be there forever. Finally- just as you are about to do…I took a HUGE risk and entered law enforcement. I put my family through hell for 6 months while I trained, I borrowed money from friends to pay my way through the training, and dealt with layoffs and firings before finally being hired full time….it was a huge leap, but I ended up with my dream job.
    I really hope you end up as lucky as I did, and I’m anxious to see what happens for you from here. Cutting ties with something you’re doing ‘to pay the bills’ or ‘make ends meet’ but don’t really like is one of the most liberating albeit nerve wracking experiences on the planet, but I’m glad as hell that I did it, and I think you will be too.
    Good luck!

    • Thank you very much for sharing your story with me – I’m so glad that it has all worked out well in the end for you!

      That’s essentially what every class, in every subject is focused upon – passing those exams. I know I could teach so much more if I was allowed – but if they fail then it would be me that was in trouble, not the students…

      • That was EXACTLY it for me too! If I (we) had had the freedom to teach kids what I loved, what was interesting, fun, engaging, and USEFUL…they’d fail the exams because we didn’t spend enough time cramming them full of factoids that they could then barf back onto the test at the end of the semester. I watched so many excellent teachers get beaten down by a system that cared more for numbers than students that I couldn’t be a part of it, and I’m glad that you realized it yourself before it was too late and they took your soul too!

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