Is been a year since I lost my little friend.
For some, owning a pet is the same as buying an object, or a piece of furniture. For me, our pets become part of the family – needing the same love and care that we would give to any human being. While many may roll their eyes at the sentiment, she was my companion for thirteen years. I had adopted her from an RSPCA shelter when she was six, and by all accounts hadn’t had the easiest start in life, but I was surprised by how quickly she settled into a comfortable life with me. When so many things changed, she remained my constant through the good and bad. She was a little character, she made me laugh and crappy days at work would seem far less crappy after I had been greeted by her at the door as I arrived home. I bought her the best food I could afford, toys to play with, I had many sleepless nights when she was sick. She would regularly assist me when marking my students coursework by choosing the paper I was working on to sit on. I would wake up at 5.00am to find a fluffy paw tapping my face, indicating that she wanted breakfast, which she would then promptly ignore after her bowl had been filled. I took as many pictures of her as my friends did of their newborn babies. We were a little team, with my friends and family often enquiring after her before they asked anything about me.
A year ago she left me – at the grand old age of nineteen – and saying goodbye was one of the most painful things I have ever had to do. I know that she was ill and she had a good life with me, but there isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about her and miss her very much. I miss the 5.00am wake up calls. I miss marking coursework without having to remove her from my papers first. I miss the little squeak I would get from her when she realised I was home. Of course, I still have the other two little monsters, but there is, and always will be, an empty space that she left behind.
I’m grateful for the years I had with her. I just wish they hadn’t gone so quickly.
Miss you, my little friend…
Suzie, I really sympathize. I love my cats like they are cherished family. We just a few days ago found a mass on Hamlet’s paw which appears to be carcinoma. I feel like I will have to say goodbye soon. I know you miss your Lucy and I miss mine everyday. Sending you light and love. -Jill
Thanks so much Jill – I’m so sorry about Hamlet. Have the vets confirmed what it is yet?
I’m going to the vet in an hour. On the phone they said the mass was cancerous, but the oncologist I appointment is today to discuss everything. I’m afraid the outlook is not so good. I just have to enjoy the time I have left with him and remember he has had a good life.
I miss my puppy, Roxie. She’s been gone for a little over a year now. She was with me for two major moves–new towns, people…it’s hard to lose a pet. They’re family, you know? I feel for you.
I totally agree – I’m so sorry for your loss!
So so hard. Facing this with my dog right now. Makes me emotionally and almost physically ill to think of what lies ahead shortly. I think I can hardly bear to make that final decision. Thanks for sharing. I know I am not alone with the pain of saying good-bye.
I’m so sorry – it’s so difficult and they never quite leave us even when they’re gone… You’ll make the right decision when it arrives, but that doesn’t mean that it’s the decision that we want. Thinking of you…
Thank you so much. It is such a devastating decision to make emotionally. I am sure we will know when but won’t want to.
Oh Suzie, this made me so sad! I have two fluff balls and they are seriously as close to having kids as I’ll probably get. They are truly a part of my family so I totally know where you’re coming from. She looked like a gorgeous little friend xx
Thanks Rosie – she certainly was. I totally agree – your fluff balls are very lucky!
Sunday will mark two years since I lost my Molly at age 17. I’ve been in tears several times this week just thinking about it. Our babies are our babies, be they two- or four-legged. I wish you peace as you commemorate your lost loved one.
So sorry for your loss my lovely, and I totally agree – any programmes about cats set me off at the minute!
I completely get it, .. 😢
Thanks so much – Ive had so many lovely comments from pet owners who feel the same way…
To be so loved – you are both lucky.
I was so lucky to have her – she was my closest ever friend. I truly believe I wouldn’t be where I am without her…
She was beautiful, Suzie and I can tell from this and other posts, still in your heart. This brought a tear to my eye, you loved her very much, I can tell. Big hugs.
She reminds me of my Candace (who I got from the SPCA and passed away at 17 years old) – they are gone, but they will always be with us.
I totally agree – their little spirits will always be with us. So sorry to make you cry my lovely – thank you for your support, as always!
I understand
Thanks Annette!
We will always miss our little family members. You will hold her in your heart, and her spirit will continue to bless you.
Absolutely – I’m so grateful to have has the time with her that I did.
I lost my horse 14 years ago and when the times comes up end of the year, I still feel sad. I still miss her… https://amommasview.wordpress.com/2014/10/22/still-miss-you/
And I miss our dog, we had for 12 years. He was our first baby… They are part of our family. They are not just a toy or an object. And they leave a big gap when they leave. But they also leave a lot of joy behind. All the beautiful moments we had together…
I totally agree, and I’m so sorry for your losses. They become little family members, and the time we have with them is never long enough!
Yes. And they stay in your mind and in your heart.
I know how hard it is to lose a beloved pet. I’m still grieving Banky. My thoughts are with you…
Thanks Austin!
We certainly feel for your loss. Still hard for my other half over the loss of her “Rhett” He was 16 & had saved her from a fire in her house so she was especially close to him. It’s very hard to lose a “furbaby” as they love us unconditionally.
Aww I’m sorry for your loss. the Bloke rarely shows emotion openly, but was devastated when we lost her last year…
So hard to lose them, I know. I was missing my late cat today, too. He lived to be 17. Pets are definitely family members in this household.
Sounds like she lived a great life with you, and you were lucky to have each other. ❤
Thanks so much Maisy, and I’m so sorry for your loss. I was very lucky to have her certainly…
I feel the same way about my babies. They are my family and love me unconditionally, make bad days better and good days great! Each one has left their paw print on my heart.
Absolutely! Thanks so much Deb!
What a sweet memorial to your dear friend. I can relate; I lost my sweet feline friend in early 2014. Adopted as a kitten from a local shelter, she was my constant companion and friend over 17 years. I still miss her and think of her every day.
So sorry Kim. It’s so hard when they leave us, particularly when they are with us for such a long time. It never seems long enough though does it?
My Maggie passed away more than 4 years ago and I still miss her. 😔
So sorry for your loss…
Very nice tribute to your sweet kitty! Pets are definetly family!
They certainly are – thank you very much!
I’m so sorry Suzie, no matter how much time passes,we never forget our beloved pets. In Writing 101, I’ve written two posts about my dog Oreo who died in 2011. The writing was cathartic for me but opened up tender memories. She had a beautiful life with you and look how long she was in your life–19 years is very long for most animals. As I write this comment, my two sweet dogs are right her on the sofa with me. Thank you for sharing this heartfelt post ❤
Thanks so much Terri – I’m sorry for your loss!
I so understand. There will be a lot of people who won’t understand what I’m about to say, and that’s ok. My fur babies are my kids since I have no kid-kids. But one in particular, BabyDoll, was my little furry son. I do believe that we can have furry angels, and he was mine. He looked like Oscar the Grouch (poor Persian in him) but he was the chill, coolest kitty ever. When I got divorced, he just knew how to make me feel better. He slept on my ex’s pillow and reaching out and feeling his fur I was comforted and could go to sleep. It’s been 4 years and 4 months since I lost him, and I will always miss him.
Big hugs to you and your sweet friend and angel-kitty.
K
So sorry for your loss – I love the idea of animal angels! I got her when I needed her most, so this may be true!
I believe in them with all my heart. Every kitty is special – but then there are the ones who are just even “more”. With the way they love us- better than how some people love- I have no doubt they have souls. I have a bunch of bachelor kitty angels waiting for me. Makes me smile whenever I think of them playing with a sack of catnip together. 🙂 hugs.
This is so touching Suzie, and cathartic writing I suspect. I don’t think we ever stop missing them when they’re gone, nor can they be replaced. – I have a house full of pets now, that are much loved, but they are not (nor ever can be) my Ellie. – Ellie was a German Shepherd, and she was my baby, words don’t cover how much she meant to me, and I to her. Iv’e got her picture pinned up inside one of my kitchen cupboards, and talk to her (sounding mad I’m sure) when I go in for a cup. 🙂
Your comment was beautiful and made me tear up. Thanks so much for sharing your story with me – sorry for your loss!
She was adorable. I understand your feelings and the emptyness. I lost my dog two years ago and still miss him. He was 13 years old and I’ve had him since he was a puppy. They live on in our hearts and memories… I got tears in my eyes reading your post – beautiful written about your friend ❤
Thank you so much – sorry to make you cry!
A very moving post. So many people don’t seem to realise that animals can be very important in our lives.
They certainly are – thank you very much!
19 is a fantastic age for a kitty to live to, she obviously had a very happy and content life with you. I got my cat when I was 7 so it was like we’d grown up together, her copying me/me copying her! Even 10 years on my mum and myself will very occasionally feel her behind us, or see her shadow in the corner of our eye – it’s strange and lovely. Do you ever do that?
I’ve sworn that Ive heard her a few times upstairs… It’s a really odd experience!
Yup. Our brains are funny things.
My Raymond has been gone for 8 years, and I still miss him, too. Pets are little, furry people who love us unconditionally. They don’t care if we are fat, poor, awkward, ugly, etc. They love us warts and all. That is what makes them unique. They see past things most people can’t or won’t. Your little friend knew she was loved back. You were lucky to have each other.
We certainly were, and I’m so sorry for your loss! I totally agree – that unconditional love is the best part of being a pet owner!
((Hugs))) from way over here, my friend.
Thanks my lovely, as always…
They are part of the family, and such great friends. My first cat (that was all mine) died over 30 years ago. I still miss him.
They leave a little part of themselves with you, and take part of you when they go… Thanks so much for your comment.
My pets are like one of my children and I know how hard it is when they have to leave us. My beloved Angus just died the end of March and every night I still keep expecting him to jump in the bed.
I’m so sorry Evelyn! I still expect her to greet me at the top of the stairs – it’s heartbreaking isn’t it…
This brought tears to my eyes. I have a cat I adore and I wish he could be here forever. Pets bring such joy to our lives. I’m so sorry your friend is gone, Suzie.
Thanks so much Keisha! Sorry to make you cry!
We had cats in our lives from 1973-2014. Each was a member of the family, living from 17 to 22 years old. After the last, I wrote about them. Please take the time to read “Life without Cats.” Thanks. http://memoriesofatime.com/2014/03/12/about-cats-life-without-cats/
Thanks so much James. I’ll check it out!
This made me shed a tear, as at the time of reading I have my fluffy baby on my lap. The mere thought of her leaving is impossibly awful to me as she is my best friend and closest companion. She’s a
Ways here for me, and I would miss our walks into the woods together.
She really is my baby. I feel for you and wish you strength.
So sorry to make you cry. I’m glad you have a little fur baby with you! Thanks so much for your comment!
And I miss my little friend George – so named as he was de-sexed on St Georges day. From the RSPCA too, George was 1 years old when we brought him home. He lived as a house rabbit and although he didn’t give us much – we all loved him and still miss him.
They always give us lots, even if we don’t realise at the time. Loved the way he gained his name – thanks so much for your comment!
I had a lovely little tortie girl a few years back. She was a tiny package of complete mischief. Whenever I see tortie cats, I always think of the scrapes she got into, like walking along the landing rail, slipping and landing on the hall floor below. She just jumped up and trotted to her basket fora bit, hoping that no one noticed. I’ve never been able to bear the house without paws, when we’ve been in between pets. They make a home.
They’re cheeky little things aren’t they?! I totally agree – a house is not a home without a pet…
Oh, she looks exactly like my cat Buffy! Buffy was given to me by a friend when I was first diagnosed with cancer. She slept on the end of my bed all through my treatment, cuddling up besides me on the days I felt the most ill. She lives with my Mum now but I see her regularly. They hold such a special place in your heart XXX
I’m so sorry that you had to go through that, and I’m so glad that she was there with you. How are you doing now?
I write about the cancer experience on my blog in a collection of letters to my son Seamus. I got a terminal diagnosis when he was born two years ago. I made the decision to keep living to be his Mother, so I am still here 🙂
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry… I admire your strength!
We put my dog down in August 2013. I’ll always miss him. Personally, I don’t think people who view pets as objects should be able to buy them. I’m like you; pets are a member of the family. My entire was devastated when Bosco died. Even though you’re doing the right thing, it still hurts.
I totally agree Samantha, and I’m so sorry for your loss. I think there should be much stricter rules and regulations for being able t keep animals… But that’s a whole new post in itself!
Someone who gets it!
Thank you – it nice to see others feel the same way!
I hope you find a new best friend and companion soon. I would be at a complete loss without “my boys”
Thanks – I have two other cats, a brother and sister, that I have had for ten years, but one has type 1 diabetes and I am expecting to have to make another similar decision sooner rather than later…
Understand how you feel – completely.
Thanks so much Kate
I feel for you Suzie. I miss each and every pet I’ve ever owned. My greyhound is 12 now and I am trying not to think about the inevitable. They do become like family members. In fact sometimes I think they are better than family! 🙂
Aww I adore greyhounds, such a beautiful breed for families. It’s a long time to have a pet, so they do become part of the family. It’s so difficult when they leave us…
I could barely get through your post. I’ve always said that people either have pets or they have furchildren. I still miss my furchild. It’s devastating and no one who has a pet will understand. ❤ She was beautiful.
So sorry, I didn’t mean to make you sad. Thank you so much for your support – we will always miss them no matter how long they have been gone…
My Maltese Terrorist died only a few weeks ago. He was a rescue dog and he was such a character. Unfortunately he did not have a good start and I suspect that contributed to his later illnesses. My only hope is that he knew how much everyone- even friends who visited – loved him. I’ll miss him for a long time.
So sorry for the late reply Edgar – I was so sad when I read your post about The Man – he was obviously very loved. How is Chienne doing?
She was a beautiful cat! I agree they are part of the family and it is very hard to lose them. Our cat is turning nine this month and I dread the thought of him not being with us someday. We have had him since he was a kitten. They really are irreplaceable 😦
Absolutely! They become a part of the family don’t they – its the worst part of being a pet owner!