I’m one of them.
Comparison forms a part of daily life and is a perfectly natural response, despite how unhealthy it can be for one’s self-confidence. While I have made huge strides in developing a life that I am happy with, I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve envied a friend’s beautiful house, or how fantastic they look in an item of clothing. I’ve been secretly jealous of someone’s naturally sparkly personality, or a talent that they have, or even how exciting and interesting their lives seem to be.
I experience similar feelings in the blogosphere too, more regularly than I would like to admit.
My jealousy doesn’t lie in numbers and statistics – I follow blogs that I like and enjoy, regardless of their readership. However, I do find myself feeling envious of the layout and content that I see on other sites. There is one in particular that has, in my opinion, the perfect design. Another consistently shares beautiful images and has a great colour palette. There are a number that produce post after post of sheer perfection, and every time I read them I always covet their skill in being able to craft seemingly endless amounts of brilliance.
It’s enough to almost put a blogger off, isn’t it?
The key to dealing with blog envy is to focus on you, and, at times, use it to your advantage rather than allowing it to add to your insecurities.
1. Look closely at yourself. Each blogger is unique…. What makes you special? What makes you unique. What do you like reading about? Ultimately, what do you have to offer? A secure understanding of what you want your creative content to be about will mean that you have more of a sense of direction in your posts.
2. Put things into perspective. When was the blog created? If you’ve only been blogging for a little while, it is ridiculous to compare yourself to a blog that was established years ago!
3. Be proud of your own achievements so far. You’ve been brave enough to start your own little space of the internet and filled it with things that matter to you. You’ve created a community, however big or small. You’ve shared something of yourself with people you’ve never met. I think that takes a lot of courage.
4. Appreciate that others may be looking at your blog and feeling exactly the same way.
5. Be inspired and motivated by what your favourite bloggers are doing. What makes their layout so great? Why does that image appeal to you? What is it about their content that keeps you coming back for more? Of course, blatantly copying someone’s work is never acceptable (and why would you want to?), but there is nothing wrong with using an idea as a stimulus. I do it all the time – some of my most popular posts have been in response to something I’ve seen on another site – and many others have done the same with my own posts.
6. Use your envy to set yourself goals. What do you want to achieve with your blog? At what point would you deem your blog to be a success? What can you do to reach your goals?
7. Put the work in. Anyone who has a blog will have an understanding of how much time the process takes, but it’s important to recognise that some of the more successful bloggers will put hours, and even days at a time into creating a post, developing their layout and promoting it. If your envies lie in the large readership a blog has, look at what they do to gain such a following. Want to increase your traffic? Check out this post – you may find some useful hints and tips.
And finally, and in my opinion, most importantly…
8. Get over it, or stop reading. Enjoy another blog and appreciate it in all it’s fabulousness, but if it is making you belittle your own work and hamper the blogging process, stop reading it for a while until you feel a little more secure in yourself. Focus your energies on you.
What do you guys think? Do you suffer from blog envy? How do you deal with it?
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