Some Bad News…

imageI had a completely different post prepared for today’s NaBloPoMo. However, The Bloke has had some bad news today and as the main purpose of this little blog is to be able to work through various issues in the process of writing, I decided to change my initial idea and just get back to free writing – something I haven’t done in some time.

I’m not going to go into too much detail, but The Bloke’s job security has been in a precarious position for a while. His place of work has been going through a ‘restructure,’ a word that has never been positive in my experience, and despite several opportunities to potentially stabilise this in the last month, he has placed his faith and loyalty in the words offered to him by the people that he should be able to trust.

Unfortunately, to his detriment at times, he likes to see the good in people, and believes that what he is told is honest and factual, as this is the way that he conducts himself with others. However, there are many in the world of business who lack this level of integrity, and today he discovered that he had been well and truly screwed over by such people, as have a number of his colleagues.

He’s gutted, as I am for him, and tonight we’ve retreated to the couch with the cats to seek comfort in our favourite TV shows while we calm down. Things have been going so well recently that it was inevitable that life would throw a proverbial spanner in the works, but after a roller coaster of a journey in the last few years with the death of family members, house moves, operations, hospital stays, my huge job change and pets with serious illnesses it would have been nice to have a little bit more of an opportunity just to enjoy the stability of recent times.

However, we’ve been through worse, and as far as I’m concerned, if we can get through all that and still want to wake up next to each other every morning, then we can get through anything. We have supportive families, good friends and each other, and never need to ask for more than that…

… Except perhaps for the fleas of a thousand camels to infest the crotches of those responsible for causing so much anxiety, stress and upset to so many I care about. I hope they can look at themselves in the mirror at night.

60 thoughts on “Some Bad News…

  1. I’m really sorry to hear your news, Suzie. My own Beloved is in a similar position, i.e. Working for a company run by people with poor ethics, who treat him like the proverbial brown stuff. I live in constant worry for his physical health and psychological wellbeing – as strong as he is, there’s bound to comes a time, when it all gets too much. I really hope your bloke’s situation improves and that infestation takes effect. Sue x

  2. It will take some time to getting over being restructured out of a job …but this is an opportunity for him to look at what his best skills are and make a living on those skills on his own.

  3. This sounds like the ‘bean counters’ have struck again. Those with no real world experience, making decisions they have no business making. In any case, I hope your man can find some new employment soon. This sort of thing happens here in the States more these days and it’s a damn shame.

  4. So sorry to hear about this news! I really hope you get those camel fleas to do their job! I’m only around the corner if you need any support!

  5. I’m only liking this for the final paragraph – it doesn’t seem appropriate to ‘like’ the rest. I hope something good comes out of all this for you both, everything happens for a reason etc… Keep smiling 🙂

  6. I was sorry to hear this news, Suzie. I hope everything turns out ok, well, after the fleas of a thousand camels to infest the crotches of those responsible for causing so much anxiety, stress and upset to so many you care about.

  7. Great post about real life challenges Suzie. Your determination comes through in your writing and I am inspired by it! I hope better things are on the horizon for you both and I have no doubt you will not let this setback stand in the way of your goals.

  8. I’m so sorry for your concerns. I hope it will make you feel better to know that I had never heard the curse of the fleas of a thousand camels, and I am completely delighted.

  9. Sorry to hear this has affected your Bloke – in my long and chequered career before retiring, I did many types of work between contracts (and 3 redundancies) including being a gravedigger for the local council (for 3 months) – the main priority was to keep earning and paying the bills.
    I wish him and everyone like him the very best of good luck and can only advise – follow the money wherever it is (and stay legal)…

  10. Well written, Suzie. I’m sorry to hear about that. Nothing new coming from the corporate world…
    You have each other though, and a supporting group around you, so you’ll be fine.
    Keep strong and best wishes.

  11. Suzie, I am really, really sorry to hear about this. I can only say that I think something good will spring out of this. I don’t know what it is, but that’s how I feel. A new job venture is coming, I’m positive. Sending you both huge positive energy. Cher o

  12. I have been through similar experiences more than once. It is harsh, But I would rather be like your bloke and continue to have faith in the people that I meet and work with. Certainly, that outlook kicks you in the teeth from time to time, but more often than not it pays off an you form strong bonds and life is good. That’s a tough message to absorb right now, but please believe me. You’ll both bounce back.

    Respect to your fella for sticking to his principles. He will get all that he deserves, and I mean that in the very best of ways.

  13. Sorry to hear that. Try and beleive in everything happens for a reason and better things will come. I know it’s easy to say but I’ve been in that position before and if it hadn’t happened that way then I wouldn’t be where I am now. And where am I know? Who knows but it’s a lovely sky here lol. Chins up. By that I mean both yours and the blokes chins and that’s in no way an insult. Okay, hole, digging, stop now…

  14. I am sorry this happened to The Bloke and his colleagues, but I am glad you are there for him during all of this. ((HUGS)) from way over here to you both.

  15. I am so sorry to hear this happened to your Bloke. I’ve been screwed over by people at work whom I thought were my friends, so I understand how devastated he must be feeling. I hope eventually the ship will right itself – sooner rather than later. And best of luck!

  16. So sorry to hear this – my own bloke has been through this more than once, and it is such an awful, stressful experience. Wishing you happier times to come, you will get there xx

  17. Oh, I am so very sorry. It is hard to be restructured. It is hard to watch those men of ours that are full of integrity and truth and honesty run down and disowned. I will be thinking of you both and praying that this will be a very short season of your lives and that this will be the beginning of a great new adventure you never dreamed possible. Hope you are both okay. DAF

  18. “However, we’ve been through worse, and as far as I’m concerned, if we can get through all that and still want to wake up next to each other every morning, then we can get through anything.”

    You couldn’t have a better outlook! Wishing you both the best.

  19. I was enjoying yur post and my heart was going out to you for being deceived(My BIGGEST PET PEIVE in the world, and then you put the curse of the fleas and I died laughing. Thanks for making my night!!!

  20. I know what he is going through, I have been through that too. There have been a couple of long unemployment stretches I have experienced. This too shall pass, hang in there.

  21. How horrid. I hope things improve soon – never stay still – if he can try to stay ahead of the curve and leave these people behind. Whatever else happens, you’ll always have eachother x

  22. I’m sorry to hear about the bad news and I wish the best for you both, but I also wanted to say I love your outlook on it. It’s refreshing to see someone be able to still see the good and the fact that they will get through some trying times.

  23. I’m sorry to hear the bad news. It would be wonderful if we lived in a world where all people were honorable and honest. I am hoping you find comfort and happier times ahead.

  24. I’m sorry to hear that things have gone so dreadfully wrong. I know it is cold comfort, but at least the Bloke can look at himself in the mirror knowing he is a decent and honest person, Unfortunately, some imes it feels that it just doesn’t pay to be nice! I hope things work out better for you both soon, and I send you my warmest wishes..

  25. I’m sorry to hear your man’s news. Unfortunately it’s often those who devote themselves to work who are screwed over when it comes to changes. Even more unfortunate is the fact that those who stab in the back can look at themselves in a mirror and justify everything they do.I hope the fleas do a devastatingly good job.
    xxx Huge Hugs xxx

  26. Hi Suzie – so sorry to hear that your man has been betrayed so unpleasantly by his bosses. He’s lucky that he has you as a fixed star in his universe. There’s grace in that – imagine if he’d been in a complicated relationship, or no relationship. There’s a value beyond price in the refuge of a couch shared with the woman you love (and cats who treat you as if nothing has changed). I don’t know how much of a Welsh connection you have, but the word ‘cwtch’ ( http://bit.ly/1HwhTKt) sums up that feeling of warmth, human connection and security.

    I think he’ll be glad that he’s carried his own moral sense, clean and clear through all the muck of ‘restructuring’. Ultimately, believing in the basic good intentions of others will serve him better in his own future. Bitterness and suspicion won’t. It’s s**t to lose your job. It’s s**tter to let your personal moral touchstone be muddied and contaminated by bad business practice. There’s no shame in trusting others. The shame lies in those who abuse that trust.

    Cwtch as much as you can!

    All best wishes

    Elaine

  27. Very best wishes to you guys at this time. My family’s survived my being laid off and being screwed out of a job by people I thought I could trust and rely on as well. The reality is that each one of these instances sees you come back stronger than before. The downturns suck. Badly. But these things have taught me, an avowed pessimist, to look on the bright side of things- sometimes, the only direct to go is back up, and that’s what’ll happen. The best thing your ‘bloke’ can do is move onward and upward to the point where he can look back, and maybe a little bit down, on the people that screwed him. The best revenge is success.
    ….also the fleas. The fleas would be a good one too. Good luck, and its perfectly okay to be annoyed, angry, and bitter for a short while, but not too long. That doesn’t help.

  28. I am a firm believer that things work out the way that they are supposed to, but I also believe in Karma and look forward to seeing a link to an article about an inexplicable camel flea infestation in the not too distant future.

  29. I’m really sorry to hear this, Suzie. It’s a horrible thing to go through, not just the uncertainty but the sense of betrayal as well. I’ve lots of well-meaning advice to give but now’s not the time. Just focus on yourselves and getting yourself through this bad patch. Things will get better. Dylan

  30. Not good news, though, as with most things, the chances are you’ll look back on it with different eyes. About 20 years ago I went through the process of applying for my own job for the second time in two years. I left the company and went to work for another. Two years later, my new company was sold and I was facing a lot of uncertainty again. It was the final push I needed to go and work for myself. Even though that proved to be the right thing for me, I’m not suggesting it’s right for The Bloke. But it might be that it’ll lead to a jump similar to the one you’ve made – taking a risk, but into something he really wants to do. Whatever the outcome, I’m sure something good will come out of it.
    In the mean time, there’s nothing wrong with hunkering down in front of the TV. My preference in those times is action movies and comedy, but I’m sure you’ll have your own favoured options.
    As you can see from the responses you’ve had, there’s a lot of support out there for you – and that should be heartening in itself.

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