As a teacher I can quite happily talk in front of large groups of children without feeling fazed at all, but the mere thought of having to speak in front of adults makes me shudder. Quite simply, I genuinely don’t care what the kids think of me, but I’m very intimidated by the judgements of people of my own age.
As a result, my experiences of public presentations are littered with embarrassments. There was the time when I asked a group of parents to ‘feel free to take a sh*t’ instead of ‘seat,’ the time I forgot where the fire escapes were at the beginning of a concert and effectively pointed to a large window during my audience welcome, and let’s not forget the time I was asked to give some flowers to a prominent conductor on behalf of the orchestra I was playing in, only to drop them off the side of the stage on my way up to hand them to him. This meant I had to walk all the way round to the bottom in front of the audience and give them to him from the floor.
So, when Steve from Talk About Pop Music asked me to do a quick interview on his popular blog radio show, I was apprehensive. However, I love the show and I’ve known Steve for several years, and I soon found myself staring at my Facebook messenger app with butterflies in my stomach, waiting for him to call me live during his Saturday night show.
It rang, and I answered with “Hello!” expecting to hear his Scottish accent on the other end of the line.
I tried again.
“Hello? Hello??? Hellooooo?”
Nope. Nothing. I hung up.
He rang me back again.
“Hellooo? Hello? Hello?”
I turned the radio back on to find Steve playing Adele’s Hello, and it was obvious from the hilarious tweets I received that everyone could hear me, I just couldn’t hear them.
We decided to try again, but this time I was just going to talk about next Sunday’s mahoosive Valentine’s Day Blog Party and then say bye. The phone rang again, so I did just that. I started rambling, and then half way through I finally got a connection! It was Steve – yay! We had a chat for about thirty seconds and then he told me he’d just found out that the audience could hear me, but not him, so it sounded like I was having a conversation with myself.
Great. The audience must have thought I was insane.
To top it all off, Steve asked me to tell a joke. I’m not good at this – I know plenty of jokes but my delivery of them makes even the funniest of them sound like a eulogy at a funeral. This was the one I came up with – the joke that made me laugh so hard that it got me thrown out of a Year 9 science lesson when I was 14.
What’s blue and stands in a field?
A cow in a shell suit.
Hilarious! However, judging from Steve’s reaction he wasn’t impressed.
And that was that. I hung up and went for a cigarette.
And this, my friends, is why I shouldn’t be allowed to speak in public.
However, one thing I can do I host a blog party – and me and Steve have got an enormous celebration planned for Valentine’s Day. Want to find out the details? Just follow the link here.
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😀 Too funny! I know just how you feel, I hate public speaking too. I remember a large work meeting with a managers etc where I was supposed to explain a new system I’d set up to file transparencies (trannys, for short). Except somehow ‘filing the trannys’ became just ‘fannys’ and so the meeting was pretty much over LOL. I still cringe when I think of it…
Bahahahaha that’s awesome!
Haha – it wasn’t so much at the time *blushing*
I can imagine!
filing the Tranny’s might have been awkward to say too
😀 Yes, it was, come to think of it…
i am exactly the same!
It’s awful when stuff happens in front of an audience isn’t it! What’s the worst thing that’s happened to you?
When I was presenting to prospective parents for the upcoming year, I ha d to explain curriculum , erc. For some reason, at the end, I decided to assure them that it wasn’t all about academics, that I had fun with them too. All that came out was, “I like parades!!” It went quiet and I just passed the mic to my colleague.
Bahahahaha! That’s awesome!
Well funny > Asking people to please take a shit immediately made me start to laugh > nice one on that. I just wish I’d been there to see it. What was there reaction? I’m also a teacher and know exactly what you mean about speaking in public > oh the anxiety of it all. I did supply teaching once and got lumped with doing Year 10 girls badminton (as you do). To break the ice I asked them if they knew when their next period was. Oh the embarrassment of it all. Thanks for brightening up my day
Haha! Love it – being a music teacher there’s a whole plethora of words I have to avoid: fingering, tongueing, climax, G string…
The parents were pretty amused. One of the dad’s responded with “I don’t think the cleaners would like that…”
LOLOLOLOL >> Phew. I never realised what a minefield music teachers exist. I guess you need extra training for that or counselling after parents evening. Do you suffer from physical embarrassment as well as with speaking? > I mean knocking things over, walking into walls or falling down steps (my curse)
There’s a post in itself!
Lol it sounded grand ya eejit 🙂
Haha! Your tweets were making me laugh!
Hello…..Hello….next time you have to do public speaking, imagine each one of those “adults” as the child they would have been in your class…..maybe that might help, as long as you don’t tell cow jokes.
I know – the cow joke let me down I think. Although it’s still one of the best jokes I’ve ever heard!
This made me laugh! I’ll have to concentrate now so I don’t say “feel free to take a sh*t” next time I offer someone a seat… once that seed is planted, you never know when it will pop out!
Bahahahaha! You’re going to have to let me know if you do!
Oh heaves this certainly relates!
I bet you’ve got a bajillion stories Geoffle!
Interesting. I have this phobia but only with certain crowds. Like you, I taught without a problem and I’ve held workshops for different age groups but have a hell of a time with ‘public speaking’. It’s bad. I haven’t told anyone to take a shit but, still, it’s bad. 😜
Haha! You should work it into the conversation if there’s ever a point you’re stuck for words!
It was quite delightful, listening to you, then Steve, then you… and totally understanding the frustration each of you was feeling. Considering that LIVE radio it as unpredictable as can be… You two will do swell, rocking the special VD program. And I look forward to cow jokes…
Haha! Thanks my lovely – I’ll get more cow jokes ready for Sunday. Hope to see you at the party!
So funny! I’d be appalling, I’m quite sure. Last week I recorded my 1st ever audio memo on my phone and got so stagestruck I forgot what word came after ‘cotton’ in the phrase ‘cotton wool’. If you listen back I say ‘cotton’ there’s a long pause …… then like some bizarre James Bond intro … I just say ‘Wool. Cotton wool’.
Haha! I’ll never look at James Bond in the same way again!
Here’s the story of the biggest surprise I got in public speaking:
Despite the shocking way that I found myself on the stage, it worked out oK
Thank you – I’ll go and check it out!
That would send ME for a cigarette, too! It sounds like it went from bad to worse!
Haha! To be fair, it could have been worse, but not much haha!
If it’s of any cancelation I’m laughing my arse of this! Ok, I’ll leave that mistake in to make you feel better. To be fair a window isn’t a bad fire escape from the ground floor and it’s best your audience don’t have any toiletry needs before you start lol My soul dies for you a little about the flowers though. I love that Steve was quick enough to play ‘Hello’ – brilliant. I’m sure everyone realised something bobbins was going on – honestly.
Bobbins – you’re such a northerner Chrissie! I love your comments, they always remind me of home!
Aw ta, I’m glad Suzie. I have started writing just how I’d normally speak so it’s a mix of Northerner, (Northern scally – ahem) and American surfer dude lol
Love it! I cannot wait for your next public appearance. I support anyone who can tell large groups of people to take a shit. At least you’re a good sport about it, and are willing to laugh aloud at your own antics. Thanks for the entertainment!
Bahaha! I think I’m expected to do it again on Sunday so brace yourself!
Haha you were awesome – blame the technical controller at the radio station, they need the sack lol
Can’t get the staff these days…
Reblogged this on Steve Says… and commented:
Suzie’s here – take a s*** everyone!
Oh, I can so relate…I get so self-conscious when I have to speak in front of an audience that my mind just goes blank…I wouldn’t be able to remember ANY joke, cow-related or otherwise! So I’d say you did pretty darn well (slips of the tongue notwithstanding)!
Haha! Thank you! At least I didn’t swear this time!
Hahahaha. Hilarious, and I missed it!
I think he’s got the podcast available for further embarrassment haha!
Omg, there is no way I would ever do any public speaking again! Comedy of errors.
Haha! I totally blame Steve… I think we’re trying it again on Sunday during the blog party… Oh dear!
I needed the humor in your piece. It’s one of those days. Thank you.
Thanks Lloyd! Glad it gave you a boost – hope you’re ok?
You are welcome. I have no right to complain. My life at the moment is much better than the refugees fleeing Russian bombs in Syria.
I think that everyone is entitled to feel down – we all have problems that are all relative. I agree that we should focus on how lucky we are sometimes though
I’m only laughing with you because I’ve been in your shoes, six inches deep in the “seat” hole. As for your joke, maybe it’s Brit humor or the fact that I never get a joke and always have to have them explained. Or else I get the joke five minutes later when the speaker is relaying the most poignant moment of her life and the entire audience is sobbing – the entire audience sans moi, because moi is falling off her seat while laughing hysterically and then getting the stink eye from everyone else who thinks I really do deserve to fall down into that “seat” hole and stay there forever.
Good post, Suzie, really good post.
Seat hole – I think I’m going to use that one! Thanks Sharon!
I’ve had the same thing happen. I couldn’t hear the interviewer. She ended up typing the questions (she could hear me…)
Haha! How did it go in the end?
Of course, when all is going to hell in a handcart, you have to remember that it will make a great story one day. Which it did.
Oh, yes, and you also have to remember that you don’t really sound like Peter Kay…
On a serious note, if you do want to feel more relaxed about public speaking, I can strongly recommend joining a Speakers Club. That sounds scary in itself, but they’re designed to help people practice speaking in a supportive environment. I’ve left a link below if you’re interested in finding one near to you.
Thanks very much – that’s really useful!
Haha oh that sounds really funny. xD BUT you were amazing at the Organique event, and I’m sure this Sunday you’ll be a great host too. Don’t worry m’dear, you’re doing a great job. ^_^
Thanks so much my lovely! I really enjoyed it! Hope to see you at the blog party on Sunday!
Hi Suzie, Just wondering if you are getting my replies to your blogs. I noticed that you didn’t acknowledge the above message from me and you’re usually really good about doing that. I’m not getting new blog posts from you and am not sure what’s going on. You’re not the only blogger whose posts I seem to be missing so I may have to contact WordPress.
I so enjoy your posts and don’t want to miss any of them.
Hi lovely – they are, it’s just I have a habit of missing comments so I don’t approve them until I can reply to them directly… Xx
This morning got a lot of your replies so I know your site is fine. Still cut off from another blogger friend’s site and don’t know why. Anyway, very good to hear from you.
And you my lovely – I’m trying to keep up but I fall behind sometimes haha!
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You’re far too pretty for radio anyway, Suzie…
Aww bless you… thanks x
Eek how awful! I totally sympathize.
I’m the one who’ll end up wearing her meal when I go out for a business lunch, or colliding into walls when perfectly sober as I suddenly become uncharacteristically clumsy.
I’m guest blogging over on women writing magazine Mslexia at the moment about my fear of public speaking at the moment if you fancy a laugh. The only thing worse than public speaking is standing on stage singing… Oh the embarrassment. https://mslexia.co.uk/chasing-dreams-part-1-grand-debut/
That joke is worse than the two I know that had me in stitches, and, then everyone else because they found it funny I was laughing at a joke that really wasn’t a joke. These two came from a 7year old too.
What’s white and can’t climb trees? – A fridge!!
What’s red and can’t fit down Rabbit holes? – A fire engine!! stupid I know but I giggle inside when I think of these jokes.
The fridge joke I said today!! How cool!
Great blog. Just like to point out, though that it’s ‘fazed’, not ‘phased’ – hope you don’t mind.
Thank you – noted and changed.
There’s nothing wrong with that joke Suzie. You should open all your little talks with that one! I haven’t had much experience of talking to large groups of people and wonder if face to face or ‘virtually# is better… #SundayBlogShare
Thank you! The next time someone tells me that my joke is rubbish then I’m going to show them your comment! There’s plenty more where that came from!