It’s a beautiful evening. The sun is setting, but the sky is stil blue, and I have spent the day having a little cry on and off for no particular reason.
I love being a woman, but PMT has hit me like a bitch over the last two days. I knew it was coming when I woke up in a bit of a funk yesterday morning at 3.00am, and again this morning at the same time, and even though I’ve done my best to distract myself as much as possible I just can’t seem to shake it. I’ve been for a run, I’ve done loads of laundry, I’ve made Rocky Road, I’ve even been to the bloody circus (seriously, I genuinely have), but it hasn’t eased up. I’ve cried because The Bloke asked me was I ok, I cried because of a song I was reminded of on another blog, I even had a little cry to myself when I burnt the pizza I was cooking for dinner. And then, Daisy, my dream – killing cat, came and sat next to me and put her little head on my arm when I was having a cry, which made me worse because that’s exactly what my beloved cat, Wobbly, used to do whenever I was upset and it reminded me that the anniversary of her death is approaching.
I hate crying. It makes me feel weak and silly. I have nothing to cry about – the last eight months has been some of the happiest I can remember. I have a nice roof over my head, a good relationship, a good family and friends and two weeks holiday ahead of me. However, when those bastard hormones kick in there’s nothing I can do about it, and it’s rubbish.
There’s only one thing for it – a kick ass action film where lots of alien things get killed…
What about you guys? What do you do when the funk kicks in?
I can so relate to this! Chocolate. Chocolate helps. 🍫
I’m on it – currently working my way through the rocky road…
Good work! Hope you’re feeling yourself soon!
Thanks my lovely! How’s things with you?
Things have been rocky these past few months but trying to find my feet again. I will be back on WP in the next few weeks! I’ve missed you all!
We’ve missed you too!
I know the feeling. It’s hell but fortunately a temporary “mess”.
Cry, eat and dance is my medicine.
Thanks Amina! Crying and eating is definitely happening haha!
Then you’re on the right track. ☺
Suzie, you really have to look on the bright side when this happens. You’re a woman and, as such, you can always blame your womanhood! What is someone like me supposed to do when I wake up in a funk or cry. Yeah, I cry. At the weirdest times- well, not so weird. Usually at the sad point in a movie. I know I’m being manipulated but still I get choked up. Can’t help it. But my point is, what do I blame? And when my wife asks me if I’m OK I try to pretend I’m about to sneeze or something. I tell you, it’s no fun, at times like this, being a guy!
You’re absolutely right – being a male is no fun at times either!
Sometimes I just wake up in a really crappy mood, maybe it’s because of low glucose or a host of other stuff. Food helps! I really hope you feel better Suzie.
Thanks my lovely – I’ll wake up tomorrow and feel fine I’m sure…
Kettle Chips and lots of them! We all have our poison when the beast arrives, don’t we? And I don’t cry so much as I become irrationally angry about stuff – I think crying might be preferable 😀
How do I say this? I’m glad this part of my life is pretty much over…
I get what you mean, and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that my lovely! Was this the op you mentioned?
It was – I’m much better for it now 🙂
I’m glad, but that must have been a really difficult time!
Thanks Suzie – it was tough for lots of reasons.
Hope you’re eating lots of choccy! I’m about to watch more Game of Thrones 🙂
I’ve eaten it all now sob!
Thanks my lovely!
I am suffering too. I was riding high on a creative wave of writing about steamy scenes with handsome male vampires and then it hit me…..I now just want to have a cup of tea and a cry. Sigh!
Aww I’m sorry to hear that my lovely!
.. and then he had to listen to me crying on the phone, he must be wanting to run away with the circus at this point!! Menopause is a wonderful thing, I can thoroughly recommend it.
Haha! My mums going through it – it’s not great is it? I think he’s quietly sitting here just trying not to rock backwards and forwards at the minute… And messing about on the face swap app while I cry at the Supervet programme…
Totally hate when this happens… I realized my funk though was from being really far away from home and sometimes it would just hit me like a ton of bricks. I always eat food (especially chocolate) and typically watch Friends or anything I know that can make me laugh. Lately, I’ve also been doing the adult coloring books as well!
I’ve got a few colouring books that I received as a present, but haven’t got round to using them yet… I might give them a go!
I’m with Amanda! I generally eat my body weight in chocolate and settle in with a good book, or like you, a movie that kicks ass and takes no prisoners! 🙂
I definitely need to stock up for next month haha!
Hormones suck! Totally bewildering. Everything in your life is just the same as it was yesterday but today you feel like crap! The only good thing about it is it’s temporary 🙂
Yeah, it’s crap. I was fine the next day, possibly because I’d cried and wrote about it…
I the wallow in the sadness initially by listening to sad songs loudly, usually the smiths and then after a few of those songs I gradually up the ante with more happier song choices and eventually I’ve got Kylie on and dancing around the room all happy again!
P.s. I have named my car Daisy but not after your cat 🙂
I try and avoid the sad songs as it makes it worse – I tend to stick on some heavy rock.
And you blatantly did name your car after my cat…
No! It’s a juke. So Daisy Juke lol
Ugh! When it hits, it hits HARD! I find lots of wine helps LOL! As well as just knowing that it won’t last long and just allow myself to feel some emotions (I usually bottle all that shit up), so I indulge in a good ol’ fashioned ugly cry and then stuff my face, cuddle my cats and have a great day hahaha!
Oh my gosh i certainly does Rosie! I went for the full-on ugly cry for a while and feel much better now!
Cry, cry and cry some more. Why do we have such a negative response to crying? It is good for us. it clears the tear ducts, to make sure we don’t get eye infections. If your eally don’t like crying when PMT hits you hard, try using Geranium oil in the run up. It truly does work wonders, hth. Blessings Joy
btw is anybody taking part in the AtoZchallenge? I am doing it, and have chosen the subject aromatherapy, as it happens, so lots of tips on how to use it in everyday use.
Theres quite a few takng part as far as I know Joy – I’m not this year as i can’t commit to it but it looks like it is going to be huge!
I spent the whole 4 days of the Esater break, writing my posts, and bar a few tweaks, and responding to people interacting, I am ready to go 🙂 Have a great weekend. Blessings Joy
That’s great – let me know how you get on Joy!
I go with the flow and cry as much as I need to. I’ve found it’s very good for the skin – removes all those toxins that cleanser never does!
I’ve noticed that too! I go all red and blotchy and then it clears for a while!
Totally with you on that, I relish a good cry, feel so much better after it.
Absolutely! It’s like a wight has been lifted!
Loads and Loads of chocolate. You can never have enough chocolate at this time! I normally try and get lost in a good book or watch reruns of my favourite show. Keeps the mind off the mood swings (and pain).
Haha! Thanks Jinal – I’ll stock up for next month!
Generally I’m not into medication/drugs but I’ll give my exception to the rule. I’d suggest St John’s Wort; start taking it a couple of days before the PMT is likely to kick in. STOP when the PMT does. It should help you sleep and dampen the mood swings. Try it, if it works great if not, consider me to be a crackpot.
But above and beyond that don’t beat yourself up for the mood swings, etc. that only makes it worse.
I don’t think you’re a crackpot at all – I’ve tried St John’s Wort before but it doesn’t really do much for me unfortunately. Feeling much better now!
I just find it slows my brain down and helps me sleep. As great as some people think it is I need to put the brakes on my brain sometimes.
Sometimes we just need a cry to release all gunk that’s built up inside – even when we don’t realise it. I don’t like crying, but to me it still feels refreshing in a way. Instead of fighting it, maybe you should try to just let it all out at once rather than try to push it away, causing it to just come back again and again? 🙂
Thanks Johanna – I think you’re right… A good cry really helped!
I’m siffering too! I’ve been having a good clean andI got the mop out and husband looked a little afraid when i began to mop a bit aggressively towards him…Sometimes he smirks when I cry and it mkes me sooooooo mad!!!
Aww I’m really sorry to hear that! Does he not give you a hug?
siffering?? suffering!! see it makes me illiterate too x
I was under the impression that crying will not do us any good till I saw the movie “Inside Out” !! The fact that how sadness indeed leads us to joyful memories taught me a lesson or two and I realised that sometimes a good-cry is all we need to put us back in track 🙂 So don try to hold back. Sometimes though I understand we whine more than we intend to and then a hug from our loved ones or re-watching “FRIENDS” or “Harry Potter” or planning the next getaway works 😀 Atleast those work for me 😉
Can’t beat Friends, even after all these years! The main one that gets me is UP – that montage scene kills me every time. I well up just thinking about it!
Ohh yes. Up is one of my all-time favs too ❤ hehe, yeah we would feel "up" with Up 😀
When The Bloke and I went to the cinema to watch it I held back the tears until we got home and then cried for twenty minutes… The Bloke thought he’d upset me!
Ohh heheh. Poor guy😁 We girls are really a weird bunch eh! I do that too and now mine almost knows when I will break and keeps looking at my face ready to tease me the moment I break into tears 😶
It’s awful isn’t it!
Tell me about it 😀
I’ve recently worked out that my cycle is in line with the full moon!! As well as crying at EVERYTHING, I sprout hair on my face and my fingernails grow really long – okay, so the last bit was a wee fib 😉 It does make me go a bit loopy though and I find it’s best to let it all out – I’ll stick a weepy movie on and go for it – sobfest! The Green Mile, Steele Magnolia’s and Ghost normally do the trick. Always feel brighter after. 🙂
Steel Magnolias is the most depressing thing ever! I watched it once thinking it was going to be a cutesy film, only to end up sobbing my eyes out!
Sorry for your pain and suffering. I like to do a Pride Prejudice (BBC Version) marathon with diet coke, potato chips and m & m’s. Really bad and I could do it without the food…but I don’t 🙂
Oh my gosh, Colin Firth in the lake. Yum!
Yes, that is definitely one of my favourite scenes 🙂
Purely for his acting talent of course 😉
Of course 😉
Lots of bad-assery in a film is always a cure for being overly emotional, as there’s no time for sentiment just awesomeness. Was the rocky road easy to make?
Yeah it took about ten minutes and an hour to chill in the fridge – I got the recipe from pinterest.
I try to be a bit kinder to myself, Which is hard, sometimes, because I am my own worst critic, but………I try to be kinder to myself. Let myself have the day off, so-to-speak. Meaning if it’s the weekend just have a day to do fun or relaxing things. Rent a movie, or go see a movie. Read. Take a walk. Have lunch or dinner with a friend, if I can. Sometimes that works, and sometimes you just have to let yourself cry it out. I hate it when it comes to that, but sometimes there is no choice. Even so, in the crying itself, be kind to yourself. 🙂
I totally agree – and love all of your suggestions – I like to do so many of these myself! Thanks so much for your comment!
You are welcome. 🙂
Meant to add, if it’s during the week, then try to have that relaxing evening after work.
I know what you mean haha!