‘I’m not going to even start looking at anything until the summer holidays.’
This was what I said about a week ago when one of my friends asked me whether The Bloke and I had set a date.
What a load of nonsense – if I could go back and slap myself, I would. I blame Pinterest – I created a secret board five days ago when I had a sleepless night and I’ve already got about 150 pins of ideas that I like.
It’s only been eight days since The Bloke popped the question, and I’ve got the whole thing planned. For me, I’ve always wanted a small, inexpensive wedding day, with the important part being the ceremony itself, followed by an amazing honeymoon to remember, which we know we can ask for help with from our guests instead of setting up a registry. I’m not one of those brides who has dreamed of walking down the aisle in a designer gown, particularly when it’s only going to be worn once and then shoved in a box in the wardrobe. I’m not bothered about tradition or pomp and circumstance. It’s about us.
Despite this, I know where and when it will happen (I’ve already spoken to the venue to check that they are available and will cater for what we want) the dress I’ll be wearing, invitations, colour scheme, flowers, bridesmaids dresses (I’ve asked my sisters – which is amazing because this is not something I would have done two years ago), favors, cake… Money is going to be tight, and we’re paying for it ourselves, so I’ve already found ways to save on the cost by mentally calling in some favours with some creative and crafty friends.
What I have found far more difficult than I thought is the guest list. My family is very small – there’s only my mum, two sisters, brother-in-law and sister’s boyfriend (no aunties, uncles, cousins or grandparents). The Bloke’s is considerably larger, but still not as big as many of my friends families (particularly my Caribbean friends – their family get-togethers are truly epic). However, we’re blessed in that we have lots of friends between us, and I started off by writing a list of people that we would want to share our day.
It came to 250 people, and that’s without including any of their offspring (I’ve already decided to have a child-free wedding). Oh dear. The food bill alone for this amount of people is more than the entire budget I had in mind.
There are so many things that I didn’t even consider – plus ones, people who invited us to their weddings, colleagues… It’s far more complicated than I expected it to be. I can practically hear newlyweds laughing at me through their computer screens…
It was suggested that I should sign myself up for a UK version of Bridezillas to raise some extra cash. I can just imagine my family’s response when I start throwing tantrums and demanding that they refer to me as ‘Queen Suzie’ for the day – it’s likely to be an offensive four letter word, followed by ‘off.’
Still, I wouldn’t have to worry about the cost of the wedding then, as I’d be the only one standing in front of the registrar…
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