Dominick Pupa posted this in response to the recent and horrific Orlando shootings at Pulse nightclub, which thousands of people have liked and shared. Facebook deleted it, so I wanted to share this on the blog. It’s rare that I will make social commentary, but this is an incredible message…
We make you look prettier.
We dress you for your important occasions.
We polish up your neighborhoods until we get priced out of them.
We plan and attend your weddings even though you take vows to an entity that hates us.
We are involved in every movie you see.
We are involved in every TV show you watch.
We are involved in every song you listen to – even the homophobic ones.
We teach your children without having to tell you it’s us.
We protect your communities without having to tell you it’s us.
We nurse you back to health without having to tell you it’s us.
We clean your gutters, paint your houses and mow your lawns without having to tell you it’s us.
We fix your pipes without having to tell you it’s us, even though you let us know what bathroom we can use.
We govern your citizens – sometimes openly, sometimes only until we’re involved in a scandal after years of spewing homophobic rhetoric.
We are on every, single one of the sports teams you root for, but are usually hesitant to say we’re there because we don’t want shit thrown at us on the playing field.
We are at the root of every cue you take in life – even those of you who wish us dead.
We fight and die on your battlefields without letting you know it’s us – and until recently, we weren’t even allowed to let you know.
We got rid of DOMA.
We won the right to marry, which was already guaranteed to us, but we just had to work harder than you.
And now, as though we don’t have enough on our plate, we will absolutely be the ones to fix up your abhorrent fucking gun laws.
Watch it happen, and marvel.
Because that’s what we do.
We clean up your messes.
Without the guarantee of safety and respect in return.
Can you imagine doing ALL of that work without DECENCY as a reward?
So don’t tell me I have to view #PulseOrlando as an attack on America instead of an attack on gay people.
Because we’re not Americans when you call us faggots, we’re not Americans when you legally fire us, we’re not Americans when you kill trans people, we’re not Americans when you deny us adoption rights, we’re not Americans when you say nasty shit to us when we’re holding hands on the street (and yeah, we do hear you) we’re not Americans when you deny us marriage licenses or a simple wedding cake with our names on it.
In all of those circumstances we’re just gay people, and being an American doesn’t matter.
So, out of respect for everyone who fought and died before me, I’m going to take a few days to mourn as a gay man before I mourn as an American.
And then after that, you can resume telling me I have to be at war with people I don’t know, even though I’ve been at war with my own countrymen my entire f*cking life.
Be happy you’re at war with ISIS. Because you would lose a war against us.
Oh, and you’re welcome in advance for the gun thing. Like always.
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Thanks for the reblog!
Reblogged this on Rantings Of A Third Kind and commented:
Dominick Pupa’s message for Orlando shootings at Pulse nightclub reblogged from Suzie’s blog.
Right on spot: Reblogged this to Rantings of A Third Kind. Thanks for sharing this.
Thanks very much for the reblog!
Please tell Dominick Pupa that many of us are also your friends and we’ve stood shoulder to shoulder and voted for the rights that rightfully should belong to everyone. I consider myself one with you because we are. And now I am crying for you and with you.
Thanks for posting, Suzie. I had no idea this had been taken down from FB.
I don’t know him personally unfortunately Sharon, I just saw a few of the RuPaul drag queens sharing it and tracked it down…
Hopefully he will realize how many people continue to be touched by his words.
Definitely – I think it’s in the process of going viral so I hope that he gets the recognition for it…
WOW! I hadn’t seen this, so glad you shared it here. What a powerful and brutally honest piece. Why did FB remove it???? 😦
I’ve got no idea – it’s such a beautiful piece!
Absolutely spot on. Thanks so much for sharing this. What a shame that Facebook deleted it.
I think the fact they deleted it has made it even more popular now, because everyone is sharing it…
Not much you can add to that, other than bloody well said .. and with all the bollocks on Facebook why have they deleted this masterpiece
It’s perfect isn’t it? One of the drag queens I follow from RuPaul said that it had been deleted so I thought I’d share it
Wow! This is easily one of the best, most moving piece of writing I’ve read in a long time. Thank you very much for sharing!!
And Facebook deleted it? 😦
It’s beautiful isn’t it!
Indeed. And that adjective doesn’t do it justice.
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Simply one of the best, most moving pieces of writing I’ve read in a really long time.
Thanks Dustin – I thought it was incredible!
As an American I can tell you that the entire country is mourning what took place at The Pulse. I can also tell you that at every single blood donation center in Orlando the lines wrapped around buildings and down streets as people came forward to give blood. I can also tell you the Go Fund Me contribution site created to raise funds to help those who were injured, or the families of those killed has had the HIGHEST number of funds contributed of any Go Fund Me account. So, if you think America is not mourning, please think again.
I’m not thinking that at all, I just thought that this was an incredibly beautiful piece that I wanted to share…
And the community that was attacked isn’t even allowed to give blood to their friends.
I think I read somewhere that the ban had been temporarily lifted after the attack to allow for more supplies to be collected. It’s disgraceful that it isn’t allowed usually though…
Wow, really? WHY? This seems outrageous..
Actually, that came up in conversation after this happened, and apparently the rules have changed or at least been lightened regarding that. I know little about what has been changed, but something has been.
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