Actually, if I’m being honest, that’s a complete fabrication. The Bloke and I got engaged in May (after an unbelievable proposal overlooking a 13th Century Scottish castle, and yes, I’m never going to get bored of saying that), and by June I had pretty much decided on what was going to happen on the big day. The Bloke laughed at my initial proclamation that I wasn’t going to do anything until the summer and he was right to do so – I started thinking of ideas the very next day.
Now, when I say ‘I,’ I of course mean ‘we,’ but with me having more free time than The Bloke does I’ve been able to immerse myself in Pinterest for ideas and fill out the necessary paperwork. He’s got used to coming home only to be greeted by my phone being shoved in his face with the question “Now, what do you think of this?” and to his credit he has given me his honest opinion and offered his own suggestions along the way.
I’ve never wanted a big, fancy wedding. I’ve been to a number of them, all which were fabulous and unique with loads of fantastic things to do, but as cliche as it sounds I’ve always liked the idea of a small ceremony and a lack of pomp and circumstance. We get married, we eat, then we get our dancing shoes on and have a great time with people that mean the most to us. I am determined that The Bloke and I get the chance to spend the day together, as one of the biggest regrets that my family and friends say they have about their own weddings is that they were so concerned about everyone else having a good time that they forgot to enjoy it themselves.
For now, everything is going well. The venue is booked for October 2017 and paid, the food ordered, the registrar is booked and a deposit paid, I’ve secured a fabulous photographer and hairdresser, my sister will be doing our make-up, I’ve pretty much completed the centrepieces and seating cards (posts on those will go up at a future date) for virtually nothing, I’ve got a design for invitations ready, my friend is making me a cupcake tower instead of having a massive cake (and she really does make the best cupcakes – I know, because I’ve tried them all), I know exactly what we’re doing for favors and where we are going to get our flowers from, the guest list and seating plan is done and I’m currently looking for a DJ. I haven’t got a massive bridal party, only having a family of four (with no extended relatives) – my mum will be walking me down the aisle and my two sisters will be my bridesmaids, but we’ve already decided that dresses will be bought off the rack next year (including my own – I refuse to spend thousands of pounds on a dress that I’m going to wear once), and they will be sold after the day is over. The Bloke’s family is considerably larger (and they’re all northern and hilarious), but the only member of his grooms party is his sister, who will be his Best wo-Man. There are no children invited (my friends have a collective group of about 35 children between them), and I can’t believe that I still have to wait a year!
The most fun aspect of it all, I’m discovering, is what I think of as the extras. The stuff that I didn’t know I wanted – dessert table, candles, photo booth, even the confetti I want to put on the tables. And I’m getting a kick out of working out how I can do it simply and for minimal cost and meeting some new and interesting people along the way!
What about you guys? Any hints and tips for fun and inexpensive things to do on the day?
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I’ve just been to a wedding last Friday. Small, but fun. The best idea was to ask the guests what song they love and have the DJ play all of them during the party. Well… All but mine, but let’s not get into that… -_-
I hope you have a fab time planning the rest of your big day and really don’t forget to enjoy yourself then, too. Also, a belated congrats on getting engaged! 🙂
Thank you! What song did you request?
Oh the planning is soooo much fun!!! But mine was the typical Big Fat Indian wedding with 750 guests and festivities starting a week in advance!!! Intimate isn’t a choice in our functions!!!
And it’ll be 15 years next month!!! 💕💖💗
What type of wedding? Sikh?
Oh yes! And having Kenyan roots it was even more colourful!!!!!
I trained as a classical violinist and we had a string quartet, so I’ve played at so many Christian weddings I’ve lost count. However, when I moved to Birmingham I was invited to a Sikh wedding and it was one of the best weddings I’ve ever been to in my entire life! The food, the dancing, the people… AMAZING!!! And the booze – the father of the bride kept coming over to say hello and kept giving our table bottles of brandy and Malibu!
Yes… booze does tend to flow rather freely lol!!!
It was one of the reasons why I decided to stay in Brum after I graduated – totally different cultures that I’d never experienced before…
Brum certainly has that culture mix! I do miss Brum 😊
I have a little love affair going on with the place…
Brum Love ❤
Definitely!
Kenyan roots? That’s so interesting! What did you do at the wedding that was Kenyan influenced?
Both my parents were born there and grew up there. I think Kenyan Asians are a little more modern… we stick to all traditions but things are done in a much more upbeat way. Some families from the punjab are a little staid you see! The actual wedding day and reception is pretty much the same as you can’t go too wrong with a dhol and caterers, but during our wedding build up we did lots of other silly things, from fancy dress nights to Kenyan inspired food, and some Swahili songs are a must too! I guess it’s just a slight lifestyle difference.
Married into a proper Punjabi Sikh family I feel the difference all the time at functions!!!!
I bet that was amazing… What sort of fancy dress did you do?
It was a free for all but I had super heroes and fairytale characters… Elvis and red Indians… Masaai warriors a day punjabi pirates (don’t ask!) To name a few. It was the day I was having my henna done so I was people watching rather than doing my usual dressing up! It was so much fun!!!!
You’ll have to bring some pics with you to the next bash!
4 albums for the wedding …. and numerous others for the other functions…. I’ll have to downsize lol!!!!
Oh my gosh haha!
Yup! Don’t do things by halves lol!!!
I can imagine how beautiful the two cultures mixed would’ve turned out. It sounds like a a huge block party of people, colors and foods!
Agreed!!
Oh it was definitely that Trudy! And when my brother married, throw Finnish into the mix… It was a Finndian wedding!!!
Hi ya Suzie, it sounds like you’re having fun with all this. Sorry I’ve not been around to see your many great posts – I hope you’re well!
Hi Simon! You haven’t missed much – I worked for a few weeks on a supply contract so I think I posted about six times in the entirety of Sept! How’s you?
I’m OK, I’m missing writing though. I’ve not had the time since starting my new job. I can’t have posted much more than you.
How’s the new job going?
It’s going well thanks. It’s been a bit of a, challenge I don’t mind admitting.
Starting a new job always is… Is it the workload or the work itself?
A little of both to be honest. It’s challenging, with a lot of it lol
Let me know how you get on with it!
I will! 😃
Write each other promises. Things you would like to see and do for each other in the future. Put them in a beautiful box and open it each anniversary and see what you have accomplished together.
I LOVE THAT!!! Thank you!
Congrats on the engagement, happy planning!
Thank you!
It all sounds so lovely especially because it’s small, you wouldn’t feel that anyone is being left out or ignored. Sounds very intimate, like a good dinner party.
I love that idea… It’s going to be a great chance for all our friends to catch up too!
That sounds like an excellent night especially for your friends, a memory they won’t forget either.
Hopefully haha!
I think so! Surrounded by friends and all that love, it can’t go wrong!
Plan fur fun and be ready when the most unexpected things happen – let them be fun as well. The worst weddings aren’t necessarily the over-planned ones – they’re the ones where the bride or groom falls apart because some of the planning got undone.
I’m pretty sure that I’ll end up stressing on the day about something, so I’m trying to be as calm as possible and not turn into a bridezilla haha!
Congratulations! I wish you best of luck 🙂
I only wanted to leave you with this piece of advice (as a co-organizer of my cousins’ wedding last august), nothing is going to be perfect, but everything will turn out perfect. Aka, things gonna get hard as the time draws near, and there will be times you’ll worry if everyone is gonna have enough to eat/drink, if they like what they got served, the music…etc. I promise you, there is no reason to worry, as imperfect as it may look like to you, it is perfect and is happening exactly as it should. So relax, sit back and enjoy yourself. Make sure you remember your wedding, and not all the worries about it.
Sorry for the long comment, and best of luck. Wish you the longest, happiest life together with your hubby-to-be 🙂
That’s really useful and a lovely comment – thank you!
I sincerely hope your wedding day will be the best ever for you both, Suzie! ❤️
Thanks John! I can’t believe it’s still a year away yet!
Wow, a long time.
Yeah, I’m so excited already haha!!
Congratulations!!! What an absolutely exciting time. I could talk alllll day about weddings. I actually did mine all from thrift stores and spent hardly anything on decor. I have a whole page dedicated to it :https://mackmarie.com/2016/08/08/our-fairytale-told-in-pictures/ . If you have any questions about anything let me know. Not sure if any of it is even your style! Once again-congrats and best of luck to you during this amazing time of your life! xo
Ooh that’s great Mack – thank you! I’ll check it out!
My daughter got married recently, and the best advice I can give you is to plan in detail and follow up. We had fun making wooden signs, I sewed a lot of burlap and lace table toppers, and people liked the personal touches. Yes to a string quartet – we had one of those plus a DJ who managed to play something for everyone. When he played “Shout” everyone was on the dance floor. Happy planning and enjoy it all!
Thanks my lovely! I’m having a blast making all the crafty things – if I carry on I can open a shop at the end of it and sell everything off haha!
If you do, I’ll add our things to yours!
We can open a shop!!
Love this I’m getting married next October too – totally all about Pinterest & using some of the amazing ideas on there – sometimes less is more 😍👌🏽👰🏽
I’m totally with you haha! Where are you up to in your planning so far?
I’m doing pretty good actually, venue sorted, photographer sorted, colour scheme picked. Got my dress last weekend & save the dates done. And I’ve started collecting bits of decor stuff as I’ve gone along – what about you? I feel like I’m too prepared though like I’ll forget something major 🙈haha
I’m exactly the same haha! Saving on getting the dress until next year (I’ve got weight to lose, venue done, centrepieces done, seating plan and guest list done, registrar booked… I’m really excited about all the extras though haha!
I’m stuck with centrepieces a million ideas floating in my head just can’t make my mind up & don’t want to spend a fortune on them! Seating plan – wow that’s super organised!!! Haha.
I know I felt the same about my dress – only went for a look last week & bought a dress haha easily pleased bride obviously !! Yes the extras are the best bit for us girls get all the girly touches and the little details sorted that’s the fun bit 🙂
I’ve just done a post about centrepieces! https://suzie81speaks.com/2016/10/12/how-to-make-a-beautiful-wedding-centrepiece-using-mason-jars/
I’ll take a look thanks Hun 🙂
Thanks!
Just from reading your post,I guess you love to keep things simple and super fun for the wedding;)Anyway,I hope u have a good time planning the wedding and wish u luck:)
Thanks Sierra – you’re absolutely right! Simple, fun and inexpensive haha!
I know what You feel 🙂 I am planning my wedding too 🙂 it is a great fun 🙂 hope You enjoy it
Thank you! What’s your favourite part so far?
So far I love finding all small decoration for venue that will change a normal place to my place for that day:) How You are getting ?
Yes! Me too! I’ve been decorating jars for weeks that I can put flowers and candles in… So much fun!
I agree :):) You realisted how many things You can find and how creative You can be 🙂 do You have theme for your wedding ?
A colour scheme, but not a theme as such. It will be Autumn so I may look at a rustic approach later on…
That is good idea, You will find a lot of great things for Autumn that will fit colours and rustic theme might be a good idea. I chose Alice in Wonderland so will be a little bit crazy 🙂
Ooh that sounds lovely!
Haha love your honest blog… and the proposal! I’m new to blogging and am wedding planning! Would love fellow blogger s to let me know what you think of mine! Thanks so much @confettiheelsblog
Thank you!
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Hi! I was also engaged in May 2016 and my wedding is also set for October 2017! Congratulations to you! It sounds like you have everything set! Majority at least. You’ll have fun with the little bits you mentioned at the end.
Congrats! Where are you up to with your planning?
Major vendors are in place, except audio (left that to fiancé but no progress). Bridal Gown & BM dresses secured. Also designed invitation suite months ago; getting ready to calligraph & address soon.
Sounds lovely!