I have a very small family of four, just consisting of my mum, two younger sisters and I, with no extended relatives. To say that relationships have been strained over the years is an understatement, but I’m pleased that over more recent times we’ve been able to repair our connections somewhat and are now at the point where we can all get together, have a great time and enjoy being in each other’s company. Both sisters are in relationships with good men – my youngest sister married my brother-in-law two years ago and my middle sis lives with her boyfriend – and this has been a welcome addition to the dynamics of four, strong-minded women.
Five months ago, I received a phone call from the youngest sis… She’d discovered that she was pregnant, which she was delighted about as her and my brother-in-law had been trying for a while. I asked her how far along she was, and her answer made me smile. She was only four weeks gone.
While it’s standard for most people to wait for three months before telling anyone, my sis and I are terrible at keeping things to ourselves if we’re excited about something, so she rang us almost as soon as she had found out.
She’s now 26 weeks, and despite the fact that she suffered from terrible morning-sickness for the first few months, sis and baby are both doing well. Baby, who I have taken to calling Baby Squidge (mainly because of how squidgy babies are – highly inventive, I know) is strong and healthy with a good heartbeat. Sis and my brother-in-law have been extremely organised in getting everything ready, and Baby Squidge now has a wardrobe filled with clothes, nappies and essential items, and the nursery is almost finished. We know the sex and name, (but I won’t be giving details on that) which has made it easier to buy things (although I’ve never been a huge fan of gender-oriented colours and clothing) and I’ve had a brilliant time in Baby Gap and Mothercare looking at ridiculously cute outfits for it.
As it is the first grandchild in the family, Mum is ecstatic. She’s wanted a grandchild for as long as I can remember, and as I and my middle sis have no inclination nor desire to reproduce, I think that she was possibly concerned that it wouldn’t happen. While she has tried to remain calm, I know that she has plans for the day trips that she’s going to have with it, and if I know my mum well enough, that will involve all of the things that she has missed since we were little – swimming, walks in the park, Disney On Ice… Mind you, it’s more than likely that the Baby Squidge will be asleep and my mum will be doing the activities herself anyway. She’s going to be a fabulous grandmother.
However, my middle sis and I have never been around babies before, and we’re both admittedly a bit concerned about what on earth we are going to do with it if we’re looking after it. For now I’ve decided that anything involving bodily fluids ie. dirty nappies and sick will be a brilliant opportunity for mum to do her thing, and instead I’m going to take the cuddles. Unfortunately, I don’t think I’m going to get away with doing that for very long!
I do know this though:
1. It will know all of the words to Journey’s ‘Don’t Stop Believing.’
2. It will watch He-Man, She-Ra and Thundercats whenever I’m around (none of this Peppa Pig nonsense).
3. It will know The Tiger Who Came to Tea and all of the Beatrix Potter stories.
4. It will be dressed up in an awesome outfit every Halloween and Christmas (my sis has already tried to veto this idea, but she has to leave it with me at some point and when she isn’t there she can’t stop me).
5. Between us and my brother-in-laws lovely family, it will be the most loved, spoilt and cuddled that any baby has ever been.
So, our little family is growing, and next year will be some of the biggest changes we’ve had for a while. Baby Squidge will be here and The Bloke and I are getting married.
Auntie Suzie and Uncle Bloke. I like the sound of that. Let’s just hope for The Bloke’s sake that it doesn’t develop an interest in his Lego sets…
What about you guys? Any advice?
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