Creating My 45 Before 45 List: A Year to Look Forward To

Back in October, I had a simple realisation: in November 2026 I will celebrate my 45th birthday. The thought didn’t bother me in the slightest – as I have aged my mindset has very much become that ageing is a privilege, and despite having my ass kicked by perimenopause I actually really enjoy being in my 40s. What it did make me think about, however, was how I wanted the coming year ahead to feel. I know myself well enough to recognise that I function best when I have goals and the sense that I am moving forwards and making progress. The problem is that for the last few years, most of my goals have been professional ones, focusing on work, productivity and getting things done, rather than about doing things simply because they matter to me as a person. 

So, I feel it is a good time to shift the balance.

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I decided that I wanted things to look forward to, things that would make the next twelve months a bit more intentional and a bit more enjoyable. Turning 45 doesn’t feel like a big dramatic milestone, but it is a good moment to check in with myself and decide what I want the year to be about.

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Ramblings, Exciting Plans and a Domain Name!

I decided that if I was going to take this blogging malarkey to the next level then I would have to purchase a domain name. Consequently, I am the proud owner of suzie81speaks.com, and once I’ve figured out what the heck I’m supposed to do with mapping and DNS then that’s what this little blog will officially be known as.

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While the title may seem fairly unoriginal, I thought a lot about my domain name, and after spending quite some time messing around with keys words I realised that after nearly a year of blogging, Suzie81 is how I am known, it’s what I am comfortable with and therefore I wouldn’t confuse the 4,500 followers I have managed to gain in that time. I decided to add the ‘speaks’ at the end because that is essentially what I feel I do.

The next stage will be to customise my blog into something a little more professional. After this, social networking states will be added. And after everything is completed? Who knows!

The revelation that I had the other day is that for the first time in years I know exactly what it is that I want to do. Throughout my 20’s I had a set of goals and was lucky enough to achieve them by the age of 30. The irony of it was that once I had gained everything that I thought that I wanted, I realised that, in fact, it wasn’t what I wanted at all. The last few years have been tough – the toughest of my life at times – and I while I knew that I wanted it to be different, I had no idea what direction I wanted to take it.

This little blog changed that. For nearly a year I have used my little part of the Internet to write down my thoughts and share my experiences, adventures and ideas with anyone who is willing to read it, and it has been a fulfilling and therapeutic process. THIS is what I want to do. It may not work out in the way that I had planned, but at least I’m going to try…

And for the first time in years, I’m quite excited about the possibilities!

You can also find me on Twitter and Tumblr @suzie81blog

A Lady Wot Lunches…

Ah, Monday. I love Mondays. It is fast becoming my favourite day of the week. I have Mondays off now and I genuinely look forward to them – gone are the Sunday night blues and even though the cat woke me up at 5.45am this morning I didn’t mind as I know that I have the whole day ahead of me to do as I please. Bliss.

It has taken me a little while to get used to it – I’ve always been lucky enough to have a full-time job since graduating in 2005 and it was a huge step to realise that I wasn’t coping well earlier this year and request to go .8, but work have been amazingly supportive and even gave me Mondays off without me requesting it specifically. I was initially worried about money, but i’ve lost a lot less than I expected so as long as I am careful I’ll be fine, even with the unexpexcted vets bills for Daisy. There’s the added bonus that one of my closest friends, MRH is also off on Mondays so I can occasionally be a ‘lady wot lunches.’ Continue reading