My youngest sister gave birth to a beautiful baby girl today. Perfectly formed and weighing 7lb 5oz after a 40 HOUR LABOUR, Baby Squidge (as she will be referred to from now on on the blog) is the first baby and grandchild in our small family of four. As my first and only niece, these are the things that, on the day of her birth, I want her to know.
You are loved and will never be alone. No matter where you are and what you are doing, you will always have a family that you can call on for anything.
However, you may meet people that don’t like you. You will meet people who try to validate themselves by trying to tear you down. None of it matters. Love yourself and who you are – it will be one of the greatest lessons you’ll ever learn in life. What others think of you is none of your business.
Be nice to your parents. Say thank you.
Keep the confidence of others, but don’t tell anyone anything that you wouldn’t mind the whole world knowing, unless they prove themselves trustworthy.
Nobody expects you to be the best at everything, but as long as you DO your best, nobody can ask for more.
You’re going to make mistakes. Learn from them, apologise where necessary and move on.
It doesn’t matter how cute you are, you will never be able to play with Uncle Bloke’s Lego sets. The Duplo is yours.
Always be kind, be generous, be helpful, but don’t be a doormat.
Try. Take risks. It’s better to have tried and failed than never tried at all.
Don’t waste your time telling lies. Half your family are teachers – they’ve seen and heard it all before, and trust me when I say that WE WILL KNOW.
NEVER base your opinions on a person on their physical attributes. ‘Attractive’ does not mean ‘nice.’
Do NOT let your parents sell your childhood toys in a car boot sale. You’ll reach thirty years old and realise that they are now worth thousands of pounds.
Don’t eat garlic the night before a job interview.
When you fall in love, be it with a boy or a girl, we will support you. That is, once we have secretly done an MI5 quality investigation to check that they are deserving of you. However, don’t tell someone you love them unless you absolutely mean it.
Don’t be afraid to wear big knickers. Those badboys will be your only source of comfort on some days!
Have dreams and goals, but remember that you are never above any job.
Don’t lend money that you can’t afford to lose completely.
Find your passion and pursue it with every fibre of your being.
You have been brought into this world for one purpose – to live your life. You’ll be given guidance and introduced to lots of new ideas and experiences, but ultimately you should make your own decisions as to what is best for you. From the music that you listen to, to the books that you read, the films that you watch, the places you visit and the career path that you choose, make it an authentic life that focuses on your happiness, not the dreams that others may have for you.
Love, Auntie Suzie xx