I’ve touched on the notion of having an extroverted introvert temperament in previous posts, but I’ve become more aware of the traits associated with this over the last few years.
Stereotypically, introverts prefer calmer environments, find socialising particularly draining and often need time alone to recharge and regain their energy. Introverts are often self aware and learn through the observation of others. Extroverts, on the other hand, often try to seek social stimulation and engagement with others and are characteristically talkative, assertive and excitable. They are excellent communicators within larger groups and enjoy being the centre of attention.
Of course, both are extremes and many people fall somewhere between the two categories. Extroverted introverts, or ambiverts, can generally be found within the middle of the spectrum, but with so many contradictory personality and social traits it’s a rather confusing place to be for both the individual and their friends.
Socialising is both fun and exhausting
I like my friends and I’m incredibly lucky with the ones I have. It’s not them, it’s totally me. I’m pleased to be in their company and don’t often show signs of feeling awkward or needing personal space or alone time (at least, I don’t think I do) – in fact I often vomit conversation at them to the point where I can be a little overwhelming. However, I find socialising really fun and exhausting in equal measure after a while and when I’ve had enough, I’ve HAD ENOUGH, wearing myself out like an excitable puppy. Where I used to wait to leave for fear of being seen as impolite, now I make my excuses and go and I need an extended period of time afterwards to regroup. I’ve also noticed that I’m far more selective when it comes to my social circle – the more I age the smaller it gets…
Making a decision is difficult
I constantly argue with myself, particularly over the decision of whether to go out or not. Thinking and overthinking when deciding on something makes even a simple choice far more complicated than it needs to be.
Solo or groups interactions are equally fun
I like both one-to-one conversations and group events. I like sitting down for lunch in the pub, or going to a nightclub with a group of people. I’m happy to invite one person or a whole group out at the same time and have no problems with mixing friends from different areas of my life.
Leaving the house is exciting but takes a certain amount of self-motivation
I know that whenever I go out I always have a good time, but getting to the point of being ready and preparing to leave the house often takes a massive amount of effort, especially if it’s in the evening. I have to start psyching myself up at least an hour or two before I know I need to start even contemplating getting myself together. It isn’t the being out that is the problem, it’s the thought of it that always proves to be the most difficult part.
Days vary between craving company and alone time
I often go through phases in how much I socialise. I never feel consciously bored with my own company, but if I spend too much time alone I find myself arranging consecutive meet-ups with friends over a period of a few days. This inevitably leaves me feeling overwhelmed afterwards and needing some serious quiet time in order to recharge my mental and physical batteries.
Conversation needs to be meaningful.
I don’t like small talk – if I’m having a conversation with someone then I want it to have a point and be able to take something away from it. That doesn’t mean that I want to hear the full life story of the person I’m with, but talking about the weather is much more draining. However, the extroverted side means that I often share more about myself than an introvert would, whether you want to listen to it or not.
If anyone needs me, I’ll be on the couch. Or I’ve gone out. With friends. Or by myself.
What about you guys? Are you more of an introvert, extrovert or both?
Follow me on any of my social media pages: you can also find me on Twitter @suzie81blog and don’t forget to check out my Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/suzie81speaks, my Pinterest page http://www.pinterest.com/suzie81speaks and my Instagram page http://www.instagram.com/suzie81speaks