Reasons Why You Should Give Me Some Facebook Love

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A little while ago, I realised that my Facebook page was in need of some love. I started to build it up, and have gained a little success with drawing new viewers to my blog by sharing my posts. However, I’ve found that it has been completely neglected recently and needs a new breath of life…

Today, my lovely friends, I’ve decided that I need to start showing it the same attention that I do with my Twitter account.

However, it’s always quite embarrassing when trying to promote ourselves. As bloggers, lots (NOT ALL, but lots) of us want our ramblings to be read, shared, commented on, and as my views have increased I have had to resist shouting it from the rooftops when I have written a post that I am proud of. However, there is no point in being coy about this: this is blatant self promotion.

Here is the link to my page:

http://www.facebook.com/suzie81speaks

Still not interested?

1. It’s a great way to catch up on some of the posts that you may have missed. I find it easier and quicker to communicate there than logging onto WordPress every day and there are several blogs that I follow far more regularly on there than I do anywhere else.

Need more reasons?

2. I don’t post up Instagramed pictures of everything that I eat.

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3. I don’t indulge in sharing too much information. You won’t hear about it when I go to the toilet.

4. I don’t post cryptic messages that are clearly meant for someone without actually writing their name.

5. While I am in a long term and loving relationship, you won’t be subjected to constant pictures of me and The Bloke – no pictures of me and The Bloke eating, standing in front of buildings, drinking glasses of champagne every five minutes (neither me nor The Bloke like it anyway), or gazing lovingly into each others eyes (bleurgh) will ever grace my page.

6. I don’t believe myself to be a sporting pundit, and don’t post constant quotes about the performance of different teams.

7. I don’t post pictures like this:

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8. If pigs suddenly do learn to fly and I ever step foot in a gym, I won’t tell you about it (it’s pretty much guaranteed that I would have spent most of my time in the sauna anyway).

9. You won’t receive any Candy Crush requests from me.

10. I won’t litter the page with pictures of me relaxing on a beach and drinking a cold beverage when I’m on holiday, just to remind you that you’re still at home in the cold.

11. I do have a reasonable pop culture knowledge and a sense of reality, so won’t get Star Wars and Transformers mixed up in my posts or comments:

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12. I don’t post up pictures of myself crying in a mirror to show that I’m not just upset, but I’m REALLY UPSET.

Ok, admittedly, there are also pictures of cats, but before you go running for the hills, they are pictures of MY cats, who are awesome. Clearly worth your time. There are also posts about music, life, love, beauty, friendship, family, teaching, parenting and mental health. It’s all Suzie, all of the time!

To give my page some much needed attention, here is the link again. Looking forward to seeing you there!

http://www.facebook.com/suzie81speaks

You can also find me on Twitter and Tumblr @suzie81blog

 

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My Journey With Kylie Minogue…

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Just in case you missed it earlier, here is a brilliant post from Steve Says, my Blog of The Day… Enjoy!

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Kylie MinogueWhile keeping a bottle of wine occupied I had my quarterly stroll down musical memory lane via YouTube.

Upon eventually coming to videos by the great Kylie Minogue I had a sudden realisation…

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Blog of The Day: Meet Steve!

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Meet Steve! He’s a blogger extraordinaire, proud Scotsman and creator of two fun and interesting blogs: Steve Says and Now This is What I Would Call Music. He covers lots of different topics, including giving us an insight into his own life, but Steve’s biggest passion in life is music. His posts have included every UK Number 1 since records began, Eurovision favourites, television and movies and Top 10’s, and I don’t know how he finds the time to create such great content! He has now even branched out further into the world of vlogging, and has started posting regular videos that gives us insights into his playlists for the week.

Steve and I met through the Daily Post’s Community Pool over a year ago. I was instantly hooked on his blog because we share the same passion about music (and in particular, Eurovision), and over time we have become good bloggy friends, working together on several projects that I’ve thoroughly enjoyed. I’ve also been honoured to guest post on his blog before.

Steve’s ‘About’ page gives you a very small insight into his life:

Whether you got here by a quick click or via a long scan – welcome to my personal blog. I just want to share my ideas, findings and general reflections with anyone that has time to listen – music, photos, rants – there’s no real theme here…

I currently work in the IT industry as:

IT Productivity Coach (they say)
Service Delivery (they say)
Desktop Support (they say)
IT Ninja (I say)
I love Music and iTunes so it’s quite handy that I also have my own music blog. I also like Cats, Bang & Olufsen, Doctor Who

I live with my partner Greg which is fun sometimes. He doesn’t love music, iTunes or Bang & Olufsen but he does like cats which is quite lucky as we have two. We live in a village called Alford, Aberdeenshire, Scotland which is home of Emeli Sande & birthplace of the Aberdeen Angus cow.

I enjoy Steve’s musings because they never follow a pattern – I like the eclectic mix of thoughts and ideas that he produces each day, I love the wit and honesty with which he delivers them and I have laughed so much in the random conversations I have with him. He’s a fountain of musical knowledge, and I have learnt so much from his posts…

Follow him! Share his posts! Send him a message on Twitter!

Steve is also my glamorous co-host for this week’s #SundayBlogShare, during which he will be reading and retweeting, so it is a brilliant opportunity for you to follow him on his Twitter handle, @stevesays2014, and tweet him your posts!

Here are Steve’s social media accounts…

Twitter: @stevesays2014

Facebook

Enjoy – I’m sure you’ll enjoy his posts as much as I do!

 

 

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What I Got From “That Dress”…And It’s A Lot

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I must be the only person to see blue and gold… This is really interesting!

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Okay, so I’m sure you’re all familiar with the dress that has blown up the internet for the past couple of days. This one:

Photo from Tumblr. Photo from Tumblr.

What’s the big deal about the dress? Some people see it as blue and black while other people see it as white and gold. I’m in camp white and gold, personally…but that’s neither here nor there for this post.

What I want to tell you in this post is what I’ve learned from this dress. Surprisingly, it’s been quite a lot.

I had already seen the dress many times when Grace walked into my office yesterday before school to show it to me. (It’s a thing we do…when we see something interesting, we track down other people in the house to share.) My initial reaction when she showed me the dress?

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Sorry, I’m Not Sorry

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In the last few months I have read a number of wonderful posts. While the content of each was different, I noticed that they all began with the same negative introduction:

You will probably find this boring / You may think that this is rubbish / I doubt anybody will be interested in this…

I have learned over time to try and ignore it – I often find that I am pleasantly surprised by the wonderful writing that follows, but admittedly there are times where I have been put off by these self-deprecating opening sentences – the writer is almost apologising for having a thought or an interest in something before they have even given potential readers a chance to form an opinion about it.

What seems to be the predominant reason for the creation of many blogs is that people have an urge to write and feel that they have something important to say, regardless of the content they create. It may be read by one or two people, it may be read by millions, but I find that lots of bloggers feel that the act of blogging is just as fulfilling as the response to the post itself. So why are so many people apologising for this?

While I am rarely apologetic in the blogging world, it made me think about all of the things that I apologise for on a regular basis in my daily life. Being British, it is a natural part of our vocabulary to use ‘sorry’ as a synonym for ‘excuse me,’ but I have also been known to suffer from anxiety and paranoia which causes me to be naturally apologetic in my conversation. The use of the word ‘sorry’ within these conversations highlights the fact that I feel inadequate and vulnerable, which has the potential to make others feel uncomfortable and there have been many occasions where I have been told to stop it by close family and friends.

Of course, it is important to be genuinely apologetic when our actions have resulted in somebody else being hurt or inconvenienced, but in the spirit of positivity and stepping out of my comfort zone in 2015, here are the things that I’m not sorry for:

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1. Instantly removing myself from the company of racists, sexists, and homophobes. I can’t abide those people.

2. Wanting to have a work/life balance. In my 20’s, I lived to work. In my 30’s, I work to live. My physical and mental health has suffered because of it and I realised a while ago that being happy and healthy is much more important than earning a big salary.

3. Feeling the way that I feel about a situation. I cannot control how I feel about something, but what I can control is how I choose to deal with it.

4. Taking some time for me. There is nothing wrong with spending two hours at a time in the bath. A few of my friends think this is ridiculous. I don’t… It’s definitely the best way to spend a Sunday night. Or any night, in fact.

5. Posting pictures of my cats on the blog or any of my social media accounts. I have to look at pictures of my friends children – they are my equivalent, my family. If I have to look at little Billy in his new hat, or little Billy at the park, or little Billy with ice-cream or chocolate all over his face (which are all undeniably cute) then others can look at Daisy in a hat too.

6. Being ‘fussy’ with my food – there are so many who like to comment on my personal culinary tastes. I love tomatoes and tomato ketchup, but dislike tomato soup. I like peas, particularly petite pois, but hate mushy peas. I hate all variants of egg – omelettes, boiled, fried, poached, but really like Spanish omelette. I also like to put chips (and by chips, I mean fries) in my soup. There’s nothing nicer than soup and chips – try it, or at least don’t comment about it when I do.

7. Sobbing hysterically at animal charity adverts on the TV. And at romantic moments in my favourite films and books. And at beautiful cards and letters I have received. In fact, I don’t apologise for crying at any point – crying is good for the soul.

8. Hating, and I know that hate is a strong word, but perfectly acceptable in this situation, everything about the Twilight Saga. Bella Swan is the worst role-model for young impressionable teenage girls and… I’ll stop there, or this post will be twice as long.

9. Adoring karaoke sessions on a Friday night. I’m not exactly going to win the next X Factor, but I can hold a tune and there’s nothing better than having a few drinks and singing my heart out to a crowd of complete strangers. It’s fun and therapeutic.

10. Not wanting to have children or get married yet, despite being in a secure and happy long-term relationship.

11. Removing people from my life that were toxic. My only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner.

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12. Taking photographs of everything. I love recording a beautiful moment or a fabulous place.

13. Writing about my battles with mental health issues – it’s still a taboo subject in many areas of society, but I make no apologies when I tell others that I’m struggling.

14. Ringing in sick to work when I’m ill. If I’m ill, I’m ill – there’s no point going in and infecting the entire cohort of staff and students at my school. And when I’m well, I’ll give it 100%, and work most evenings and weekends unpaid.

15. Smoking a cigarette, and thoroughly enjoying it! I don’t do it that often but I know the risks, I don’t do it in people’s personal space, and mind your own business!

16. Not learning to drive. I had lessons when I was 17 years old and I crashed my learner car into a car transporter, and have never been back. Trust me, the world is a safer place without me behind the wheel!

17. Instantly judging someone who is rude to employees working in the service industry – bar and fast-food staff, waiters, retail assistants, baristas… I’ve been there and all are challenging and exhausting roles and those that work within them deserve to be treated with respect.

18. While I’m on the subject of judging others, I’m not sorry for judging those that wear fur for fashion. That’s a whole post in itself…

19. Dressing like a teenage boy. I like jeans and sweaters most of the time. It’s comfortable.

20. Asking for what I want. I’m an adult, I’m polite and respectful and I never demand anything, but as I’ve aged, I have learned to be more articulate in requesting things that I need.

21. Similarly, asking for help. This is something that I have learned to do recently – I used to try and take on everything myself and would find that I couldn’t cope with the pressure. Now, I make no apologies for asking for help from others.

22. Being proud of my achievements. Pride is not to be confused with arrogance – I don’t believe I am better than anyone else, but I proud of things that I have done well.

23. Having a dream, taking the risk and working my hardest to achieve it. Some have been hugely supportive. Others have scoffed. However, my belief is what keeps me going.

It’s important to remember that we don’t owe anyone explanations in the form of apologies. The act of explaining ourselves is often an attempt to justify our actions to another person, as if a decision needs validation. We don’t have to explain ourselves for the way that we choose to live and who we choose to live with. We don’t have to explain our priorities in life and what we do with our time. We don’t have to explain our likes and dislikes, our passions, beliefs, hobbies, interests, ideals and ambitions. We don’t have to explain our decisions to have or to not have children. If what you are doing makes you genuinely happy and fulfilled, you’re doing it right. So for all of these things, I’m not sorry. I’m not sorry for liking who I am and how I live. I’m far from perfect, I have a million flaws, but I do my best.

Therefore, I am going to set a challenge both for myself and for you. Stop apologising for having an opinion and wanting to share your thoughts! Don’t begin your posts with a negative statement – send your message into the blogosphere and be proud of it!

What about you? What do you apologise for that you shouldn’t?

You can also find me on Twitter and Tumblr @suzie81blog and don’t forget to visit my Facebook page and give me a cheeky ‘like’ http://www.facebook.com/suzie81speaks

Do you love reading as much as I do? Are you an aspiring author? Check out Jolene’s blog at Valley Girl Gone Country for some wonderful posts on her favourite indie novels and her daily adventures – simply click on the image below for the link!

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On Being Vanilla

 

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In the world of ice-cream, my friend is definitely Rocky Road with extra sauce and sprinkles. She’s striking. When she walks into a room, people don’t just notice, they stop what they are doing to stare, and some will even get up and walk over in an effort to speak to her.

The thing is, there isn’t anything specific about my friend that makes her stand out. She’s pretty, but couldn’t anywhere near be classed as model quality, she doesn’t go overboard with her clothes and make-up, she’s intelligent, but not a genius, she’s classy and well-spoken. She possesses that ‘something’ – that special X Factor quality that separates her from the pack. Even more frustratingly, she’s genuinely a very nice person and has no idea about the power that she holds. Her life, to me, seems exciting – she likes to travel and experience new things and isn’t scared of taking risks. She’s a natural leader without being bossy or rude.

I have always been, and always will be, vanilla. This isn’t said in an attempt to hunt for false compliments, it is simply fact – at the age of 33 I have had plenty of time to realise my own strengths and weaknesses. In a group of people I have never been the one to stand out from the crowd – I am that person that merges into the background, the one that blends in. I am not the risk taker – I’ve always been more of a follower than a leader.

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Vanilla is used as a derogatory term to describe someone, or their lifestyle as unexciting and conventional. Boring. I used to feel that being thought of as vanilla was a negative thing. Indeed, I used to feel a little short-changed when I was offered ice-cream and then handed vanilla. However, vanilla surprised me. I discovered that:

  • Vanilla is the second-most expensive spice after saffron.
  • It is thought to have calming effects and reduce anxiety and stress.
  • Vanilla is used throughout the baking and cosmetics industry and is often placed in certain foods to eliminate acidity.
  • Despite its labour – intensive growth and expense, vanilla remains a popular spice in the western world.
  • From the thousands of ice-cream flavours that exist, vanilla is still consistently voted as the favourite.

As I have aged, I have grown to like being vanilla. It may be a standard flavour, a basic flavour, but to me it is a dependable one that doesn’t change, and yet can be incredibly versatile at the same time in that it compliments the flavours around it. Vanilla doesn’t pretend to be anything else, it is what it is. I like my life and it’s vanilla existence.

And besides, this means that us vanilla girls get to add a cheeky topping occasionally!

What about you? What flavour of ice-cream are you?

You can also find me on Twitter and Tumblr @suzie81blog and don’t forget to visit my Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/suzie81speaks

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Twelve Things Men Should Know About Women

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I thought that I would reblog something from last year… hope you enjoy!

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I love being a woman. We’re strong, independent, beautiful, interesting and complex creatures that have the power to bring new life into the world, and I am lucky in that I am surrounded by many examples of fabulous women on a daily basis. However, I have lots of male friends, perhaps more than I have that are female, and after having many conversations with them I still feel that there are a few misconceptions about my gender than men need to know. Of course, I cannot speak on behalf of every woman, in the same way that I cannot assume that all men have these misconceptions and it certainly isn’t an opportunity to attack the male sex, but I thought I would have a little fun on this dreary Sunday afternoon.

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1. We have bodily functions. I am still always surprised by the amount of my male counterparts who haven’t…

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